Change of religion when married.. advice please!

I have no personal experience with this, but two people in a marriage can have different beliefs, as long as they are respectful of each other. It sounds like you've been supportive of him. Is he trying to convert you? Does he want you to also "find Jesus", and are you actually interested in trying? And if not, is he respectful of that? If neither of you are being intolerant of the other's beliefs, then it can work.

A couple of things though. When you say he "recently converted," is it actually Christianity or is it Christian nationalism? They are different things.

Two, one issue you might come across is... To put it bluntly, he believes he will go to heaven, and non-believers won't. He may consider it his personal responsibility to "save" you so you can go to heaven with him. Not all Christians are like this, but if it comes to that, you"ll just have to be firm that you do not and will not ever share his beliefs.

I’m an atheist. My husband is Jewish. We’ve been married 25 years.

First Praise God for saving your husband! I pray through it you see his light and love as well! My husband was atheist when we started dating. I found my salvation again when we started dating. My husband has since found Christ and we are both Christians now. It is definitely not an empty religion if he is genuine, you will see his fruits and it will make you want the same! Lord willing.

I think this is a him issue. You didn’t change. He did. You should not be worried about not being in the same belief system as he is. If he is pressuring you, then you guys really need to evaluate some things.

Personally, my husband would sometimes say he believes in some kind of higher power. More of a hope I think. Like 70% agnostic and 30% religious. But he is not super religious or goes to church or anything. And thinks mainstream religion is bad.

I am an atheist. If my husband suddenly wanted me to read the Bible for him or consistently go to church or became even moderately religious, he would not be the mad I agreed to marry. There are very very few things that would be a deal breaker for me, but this would be one of them.

Tbh him trying to convert you is inevitable.
Most new Christian’s are like that, it’s kind of like when people first join pyramid schemes and they think everyone neeeeds their product. Then after a year or so, the excitement fizzles.

Be supportive, if you’re adamant you don’t want to be a Christian then you can even zone out at some points. But don’t criticise and don’t huff when it’s a bit much because it’ll keep him in that phase for a long time 😂

Maybe compare biblical info to things from other religions and cultures to make the convo more interesting. I do that a lot anyway and I’m Christian.

Ps: Everyone’s journey is different and if you’re to find Christ eventually then Christ himself will workout a way that works for you to come to him. So don’t feel pressured and enjoy the journey with your husband and God bless you both xo

My Husband & I are different religions. I’ve never found myself compatible with men from the same religion so I don’t think I’d be able to be married with some1 who shared the same religion as me. Idk how I would feel if my Husband all of a sudden wanted to change his religion to mine so ur situation is a bit different because ur partner is deciding to change religions WHILE being married. I’m sure it will work out especially since ur familiar with the Christian religion urself even tho u said didn’t find Jesus, and since u don’t have an issue, I’m sure all will work out for u two because there are so many couples out there that don’t share the same faith 🫶🏾😇

Not personal experience, but my grandparents were of different faiths when they married. My grandfather eventually converted to my grandmothers religion when my oldest Aunt was about 9 years old. They've been married almost 60 years and I have no doubt they still would be even if he hadn't converted.

Two ppl can have different beliefs in a marriage you just have to stay respectful about it I’m Christian and my husband in catholic not to different but there are things that are and for us it really hasn’t been that serious and once our kids are older they can pick what they wanna do for now they just go to everything with us

Myself snd my partner have different religions
I am a Muslim and he is a Christian-celestial. Our kids have Muslim name as their Muslim name. Both party are good. When he goes to church I sometimes go wit him
He doesn’t even mind me raising our girls in a Muslim way. He said as long as they practice one

sure! Her saying she’s worried the will end up different and what if she doesn’t come to the same conclusion feels to me that she is feeling pressured to do these things to keep her relationship

Thank you all for your replies, I’m so grateful for them. ❤️
It looks like I’m looking for future issues that we really might not ever have 😅

And just to confirm, no he isn’t pressuring me AT ALL. I am trying to learn along with him so we can have discussions and I’m a logical thinker so I’ll have a thousand questions about everything and it’s better to find the answers myself than ask him (so not to come across like I’m trying to pick fault if you know what I mean)

My partner is sort of doing this. He goes to church randomly, but he's not totally invested, like he's not reading the Bible at home. Both of our moms are very Christian, go to church and are active at them. We agreed early on the kids will occasionally go-a few times a year- and we will discuss many religions openly with them and let them decide when they are old enough and ready. For now, husband is "in charge" of Christmas celebrations and I'm "in charge" of winter solstice. We do more of a secular Easter than a religious one, so that's really the only holiday that we split like that. The other ones I celebrate, I handle, but I handle almost everything kid related so I don't really think of it.

I would say talk about how you want to handle the kids and each of you enjoy what you believe, without trying to influence the other and it should be fine.

Had almost this exact same situation happen in our marriage. Met my husband 6 years ago, we married 2023 and then about a year later he became a Christian (he was very hardcore atheist, I was more indifferent/agnostic). I had a lot of fears about what that meant for our marriage and family, especially as I was pregnant with our first. I knew nothing about Christianity but was open to hearing more and would even attend church a few times with him.

I could say so much more on this but now I am also a Christian and found faith. I was actually recently baptized! This was not something that happened overnight, it was a lot of understanding and mental changes that we both had to work on together. My husband was very supportive of me being a non believer, especially as he was once there. I will say, he became a better husband and father once he found God, which I think helped along my salvation journey quite a bit. Please message me if you have any questions! Happy to discuss 😊

I once went out with someone who's family were Christians but he wasn't. Then while we were going out, he suddenly became very crazy about it and started saying he wants to marry a Christian woman and he no longer wanted to go out with me because he was going to start being loyal to this unknown future wife of his. Story short, it did not end well

My partner doesn't believe what I believe and thats fine my opinions are mine we just dont bring it up