Would you travel 30 miles one way to take your children to school and nursery just to keep them happy to avoid distress with change?

Absolutely not

May I ask why

Only if it would be for less than a week. Otherwise that is way too far.

How long would it be for? If short term then maybe but ling term absolutely not. I have an almost 3 year old and one due next week and we will have to mive every 2-3 years so will have to change schools that frequently x

it would be for a year , my son is currently in year 5 so just over a year of doing it until primary is finished and we can find a secondary near our home . Why do you have to move so often?

If it's something sustainable for then go for it. I couldn't afford the fuel or the time unfortunately. I'm in the military so we move alot and my husband is a stay at home dad x

No. Personally it would not be sustainable.

it’s not sustainable no I’m putting myself in severe debt in doing so and I’m due a baby in May and I don’t think you could possibly put a newborn through the journey think it’s unfair but then I’m just thinking of my eldest who doesn’t want to move school. so just wanted peoples opinions

It will be hard for your little one moving school but they're robust and he will bounce back and then he will know some of the kids he's going to high school with instead of jumping in the deep end then. You have to think about you driving also after birth, I won't be able to drive for 6 weeks after my birth next Tuesday as it invalidates my insurance etc. X

Absolutely not. Aside from anything else they're going to get fed up with that car time really quickly and it's going to be a nightmare for you all. If you're moving, you're moving and as much as that might be hard on the kids for a time, they need to start their lives in their new location and start building new bonds there. Why make them wait over a year to start making new friends? I think it would also confuse them and make them think the move isn't real/permanent. I actually don't see any benefit to doing this.

Change is fine. Is it always the greatest at first? No. Is hiding from it doing anyone any favours? Also no. Support them through the change.

yes already moved. A c section I think would be unlikely as I had 2 natural births with no pain relief and wish to do the same again but of course labour is unpredictable so your right I also need to think about that too if it was too happen never really crossed my mind.

I would say no.

My daughter was in an INCREDIBLE daycare, 9 miles away in Central London next to my work. It broke my heart taking her out when I went on maternity leave with baby 2 but it was not sustainable or fair. It was an hour commute on the train and a walk, but then I’d have to do that same journey back with a newborn… then do it again twice in the afternoon.

You are doing 30 miles there, then 30 miles back. That’s 120 miles PER DAY. That’s not fair to you or your little baby, nor tbh to your son doing 60 miles a day too. Also petrol just hit £1.49 a litre here!

that’s completely valid points we are at that stage now where we are totally all stressed and burnt out by it all after doing it for so long. It was just to keep my son happy and not to disrupt him but obviously it didn’t turn out that way as he has now become stressed. Yes I think we will move schools

ahhh I can imagine! It must have been so difficult removing her! It will be the same for my youngest as the nursery is so amazing and she adores it. Yes it’s a crazy amount of driving and has really took its toll on me mentally now . And with the newborn stage I think it would be awful. And then of course like you say fuel correct I’m spending like £250 a month minimum

Honestly as someone who moved schools with their kids you’d be better off moving now so they can make friends locally before secondary school x

that’s reassuring thanks x

30 miles one way is not sustainable. Change is part of life. Teach them how to handle change and manage the emotions of a hard change. Find a new school and nursery, get them enrolled, and them tell them about when their first day at the new place is gonna be. Answer all their questions, comfort them through all the feelings about change and then support them through their first days/weeks

It depends on the child and the situation. I drive 1 hour to the city so my son can get behavior therapy. It will help him thrive in life. There have been times where it has almost been to much. At the end of the day you can’t take care of them unless you take care of your self. Life changes all the time new job new schools when you change grade. Use this to teach them About change.

YES