Sleep help
How do you cope? My little girl will not be put down anymore. She will -scream- the entire way through the night if I am not stood rocking her or feeding her. The second I try and put her down she wakes up and will not stop screeching until she’s picked up again. I have had flu after flu this winter and i was hospitalised earlier this week because my body cant cope with having no rest and being unable to get better. Im so done with this I need sleep. I never wanted to do the cry it out method but even when I’ve had to because I literally didnt have the physical strength to pick her up, she would never stop crying. I tried making the bed warm, laying her on my t-shirt, white noise, lullabies, silence, pitch black then low lights etc etc, I am getting no sleep and its killing me.
Worst part is I have a husband but he has no regard for any of it. He’s never once helped me put her down or woken up to soothe her not a single time and shes almost 10 months. He knows how ill I am and how much I need rest. His excuse is that he goes to work. I was supposed to return to work a few weeks ago and I did go a couple days but then I have been put on bed rest by the doctors and not worked since because I physically can’t. I am so sick of being ill and he’s completely neglecting me and our daughter. How does anyone do this.
Sorry needed that rant
Feeling really disconnected from my husband…
We have a 3 year old son. When our son was a newborn my husband prioritized my MILS feelings (was afraid to be honest with her and hurt her feelings). I was recovering from a C section and she was at our house uninvited when we brought our son home. He knew she was there but didn’t call her and tell her to leave. She knew I didn’t want her there when I brought the baby home.
We invited my MIL to meet the baby in the hospital- she did. The only thing that went wrong was she told us she didn’t like the name we chose for him. Also told me not to feed our baby formula because “it’s poison”. My MIL has always been bossy- controlling, uses a lot of guilt and shame to control things. She’s tried to control how we manage finances, where we live, and now how we raise our son.
Basically since my husband didn’t prioritize my feelings as the new mother - and didn’t put us first- I’ve felt unattracted to him. I view my husband like a he’s man child. He has finally realized how difficult his mother can be. But I just have felt so unsupported by my husband and part of me just wants to get away from him. I want our relationship to work but the connection and attraction seems to have vanished. I have a fantasy of meeting a man that’s mature, emotionally intelligent, that I feel taken care of. Just venting and advice welcomed…
