Can i clock out?

Is this fair?

in our community

Am I just complaining?

am i just complaining or is this actually unfair?

my partner works 9–6 monday to friday
and i stay home with the baby all day

i don’t mind doing chores during the week, makes sense to me

but when he comes home, gets on the game, and then goes to sleep
and on weekends i’m still the one doing everything

like… when do i get a break?

i’m not saying he doesn’t work hard
but taking care of a baby all day isn’t easy either

so am i just complaining… or is this actually not balanced?

Would you send your child here?

Would you send your child to a preschool that offers access to a live streaming video for “your little one’s safety and your peace of mind”? Why or why not?

Am I being paranoid or gaslit?

I feel like I am being constantly gaslit by my husband over things that to me, should be common sense, but to him I’m “being dramatic” and “he won’t do that”

For example our son has just started crawling, we already have a baby gate at the top of the stairs but I want one for the bathroom door too because the actual door we have doesn’t shut properly and I don’t want him going in there and playing with the toilet brush and stuff like that, my husband said I was being stupid and “why would he do that he’s not stupid” and he thinks we should only have a gate at the top of the stairs and that’s it and any more I’m being obsessive about them, I also want one over the kitchen and bottom of stairs but again apparently that’s too much!

Another example I told him he has to turn his extension lead off at the wall now baby is crawling because I don’t want him to chew the phone charger or play with the sockets etc, he told me I was being ridiculous and “nothing will happen to him stop being paranoid”

Earlier I caught him texting while he was bathing our son and I said he needs to keep his hands and eyes on him at all times in the bath and he told me I was being paranoid again.

There’s been a few other digs here and there but these are the most recent ones. It’s making me worry when I have to leave my baby with him incase he’s not taking his safety seriously like why isn’t he thinking of all the potential dangers the way that I do all the time?
I have post partum anxiety which he knows about and sometimes I think he uses this against me.

Grandparent wars

Does anybody have any advice with navigating the so called ‘grandparent wars’. Specifically my mother is in a constant state of jealously over my partners mother spending my with my LO. I’m constantly getting calls from her saying she doesn’t feel like a priority and she is frustrated but this couldn’t be further from the truth! I have always put her first and my LO sees her way more than his other grandparent.

I’m at my wits end now as I’ve tried speaking to her about this but she just doesn’t listen! She will be fine for a few weeks then she starts again!

Ranting about great grandparent walking off with my pram

My grandma and myself havent had the best relationship over the years. Ive seen her once a year for a couple hours at christmas for about 10 years. Due to living away and also not prioritising the relationship when I visited. Shes a very pushy, sobby woman. Shes also obsessed with babies and in particular girls, and is quite sexist
I moved back home just before i gave birth. Since I gave birth (im a single mother) she has helped me out alot, but im starting to realise her "helping" is actually for access to my baby and her needs more than anything else.
Shes taken me shopping a couple times and suggests I push the trolley "coz i know what I want" and shell push my 2 month old baby girl. I have agreed as I thought its nice shes helping and thats fine.
The other day when we went shopping, we went to go down an aisle, she quickly turned around and said "one second, ive jusr seen something " and went to walk down a different aisle with my baby. I naturally turned my trolley and walked next to her and she got flustered and said "oh I suppose you can come", making me feel i had to justify why I followed and I said "well were shopping together". We walked on and she then there was nothing she saw so she said "i had just seen my friend and I was going to show her the baby, just to show her the baby". I didnt eay anything as im not myself around her or comfortable.
So this 75 year old woman, tried to sneak off with my 2 month old and then decided herself to try and find her friend and introduce my baby to her on her own, as she clearly wanted to look like she was pushing my baby alone around the shop. All for hef own self importance.
I have since texted her and explained this wasnt okay, it caused me anxiety, im not ready to be seperated from my baby, particularly in public, as well as she should have asked me if she wanted to "show her" to her friend.
Im really fuming about it and cant believe she thinks shes okay to do that.
Do you think im over reacting?

She has since apologised and said it won't happen again and she didnt mean to cause distress, but its absolutely shocking in my opinion she thinks she has a right to do that.
What do you think?

Resentment fully kicking in!!!

Background - I have 3 children and have recently had my fourth. I must have some sort of ADHD because the smallest thing irritates me if it’s not done and as you can imagine with 3 kids and a newborn it’s a tough task.

I normally do it all, change bedding, clean, wash, get uniforms, make meals, plan play dates etc, you name it in relation to children, I do it.

I’m starting to absolutely despise my partner of 12 years, as he really won’t do anything without being told. Needs to be told to change baby, to get kids into pj’s, to do homework and all sorts. Reminder after reminder and I’m feeling soo resentful of his lack of contribution, like I’ve got a fifth child that needs telling. I’ve discussed this numerous times, explained that I don’t want to mother him… explained that I would love some soft girl life where I’m taken care off rather than feeling I need to somehow figure things out but no changes…

Every weekend I say I’ll do all the house fixing the night before so he can give me a lay-in (we’re talking until 8/9am max because kids wake up by 6:30/7). Again this morning he waited until I was annoyed, fully awake then went downstairs. Bear in mind he sees me bed hopping colsoling child to child, feeding the newborn etc, he still didn’t get up this morning. I’m soo soo fed up!

I can’t help but feel life could have been different, with a more attentive partner.

I’m the breadwinner, currently on mat leave and I’ve been non-stop. I kind of want to be at work just to not see the lack of contribution and have a “break” because I’m up from 7am until midnight non-stop.

I’m so done with this relationship, so done with him and honestly am just bearing it until I can figure out an exit plan. I honestly feel like if I don’t drive this relationship, we will just float around… this man has always lacked motivation but since I’ve taken the driving seat (someone needs to as I want the best for my kids, picking schools, homes, plans, holidays etc) we won’t have anything going for us.

Anyone else find marriage to be a disappointment compared to your expectations?