Struggling mentally with TTC

I currently have a 5 year old and we finally decided this past November that we would like to expand our family. I never could have imagined how mentally difficult TTC is. We conceived our son accidentally, so we’ve never been through this before. My husband is absolutely fine with everything. Meanwhile I’m finding this one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. We have been apart about 2 months that we’ve tried and also didn’t time it well on other months as I was still trying to learn my cycle, so I guess we’ve had 2 cycles now where everything has been “right” . It’s hard to wrap my head around doing this no birth control or protection and it just doesn’t work . But I feel like I’ve already seen so many negative pregnancy tests and it just feels so cruel. I would like to give my son a sibling so badly and it’s so hard when he is always telling me how much he wants one too. I just feel like I’m letting him down. Anyway I just had to vent and see if anyone else can relate or offer me any reassurance (please be kind as already I feel so vulnerable and upset).

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Is my husband thick or an *rse

I have to rant 😭
We have been together for years but I feel like since we had a baby things have taken a really awful turn, or maybe it was always like this but now having a baby has highlighted things. Is it just me that sees it?
I’ll try and bullet point or it will be a essay
-I’m expected to do all the night wakes even though I also work (granted I only work 3days but they are long days and need some mental clarity for my job)
- If I say I would like a lay in it’s “wow you only work 3 days” “you lay in everyday your not at work” Yes I do try and lay in if little one is laying in (it’s usually because she’s been up most the night)
- he walked out on mutiple jobs when she was born “because it wasn’t his dream job/wasn’t happy” which ment I had to go back to work when she was really little and put a massive financial strain on us the last year, draining all my savings I saved for maternity leave
- He organises nights out/meals out with friends and expects me to stay home or go and be taxi, He’s even asked me to pick him up saying just put her in the car and pick me up in middle of the night, most the time now he suddenly tries to stay over at friends houses without even mentioning it before hand meaning me being left all night to have baby
Yet if I even go out for couple hours I constantly get asked when I’m back how long I will be even though I always leave a clear plan of what’s happening and when I’ll be home
- he can “have a night out and stay out all night as I go Zumba for an hour every week “😅
- If he’s “looking after her” while I’m doing chores or cooking he just puts the tv on and doesn’t watch her he’s either playing on his phone or games and now she’s walking/crawling I’m constantly shouting saying can you actually watch her, and I have said multiple times tv is a last resort for us as I want to encourage independent play or playing with us
- he makes horrible little comments like imagine doing that as a single parent or I feel like your going to divorce me which makes me think he knows he’s being terrible?
- He’ll try to put off feeding her dinner because he “doesn’t want to clean her up or the mess”
- Doesn’t do bed time as playing his games or watching tv and if I just ask he gets super pissed and just says give her your boob (she was breast fed but now I only breast feed in the night to keep nights easier)
- I also said about working extra Saturdays as these are my busiest work days (hairdresser) as currently just do every other and he flat out said “no because then I’ll have to have her every Saturday” “what’s our family time” yet we spend most Saturdays with his friends anyways or I’m home with the baby because he’s with his friends

I just feel like he isn’t interested in her or me basically and hes just being really lazy with parenting, I’m so mentally drained from explaining how to do basic stuff and doing everything it’s now starting to take its toll on me as a parent.
I try to stop doing everything but it always comes back on me because it just doesn’t get done even when I say can you do this for me and I then have to do it because it needs doing or I’m fed up of asking thousand times
Rant over 😭

Anyone else not enjoying motherhood?

It’s past 1am in the morning and I’ve been crying all night. My husband is getting some sleep as he’s the sole provider in this home. I’m alone, with the baby who I’ve managed to put to sleep( for now) My baby has severe reflux and has issues. He constantly has breast milk and formula oozing out of his nose. I already have severe anxiety and now I find myself watching him all night so he doesn’t choke on his sleep. I haven’t slept in almost 2 months since I had him. I was recently diagnosed with stress incontinence. I pee on myself when I laugh, sneeze, cough, basically anything. My newborn also has eczema and other skin issues. I cry all the time because I miss the peaceful and happy person I was. I look crazy! Taking a bath is a privilege. Is anyone else feeling like they’re being punished? This doesn’t feel like fun. I love my baby but I dread the night time and money hours during the day until my husband is back from work. Am I a bad mom?

Husband with PPD

Hey ladies, has anyone here had the experience of their husband or partner having PPD? How do you handle it?

My husband is gone for work 48-72 hours at a time and then comes home often withdraws from the family. He was pretty depressed after I gave birth as well. Perfect storm of he had major surgery 6 weeks prior and was barely off crutches and so felt physically useless then wasn’t comfortable handling the baby so felt even more useless. at the time I tried to give him a lot of grace for it because it was all new.

Now our daughter is now 10 months and my husband is mostly recovered and back to work but still having these depression episodes. Like today he came home and was excited to see us but spent like an hour with us then went to bed and hasn’t gotten out of bed since. So I’m stuck with caring for our wild child, cooking dinner (that he doesn’t even eat), doing laundry, getting the pets fed etc and just like feeling burnt out that it’s constantly all on me.

Am I being a brat? What can I do to get out of this funk? He’s already seeing a therapist which helps sometimes but then he falls back into this withdrawal mode.

My husband has been cheating on me

We’ve been married since June 2024 we had our first baby July 2025. About 8 months in to our marriage I discovered he had an addiction to porn I told him how much that hurt me and I thought he stopped he didn’t. It’s been a cycle since he’ll hide it I’ll find it about 2 months ago we decided it would be best to put a porn blocker on his phone so we did that helped the porn but I found out he’s been texting other girls…like a lot. Some he’d ask for nudes some he’d just talk to. That broke my heart I asked him to unadd all of them he said he did I just trusted him. On Thursday I went through his phone and he was still texting other girls so I told him I was leaving I went to my parents for the day I came back and we talked he apologized and I said we could try to work our marriage out. But now I just can’t trust him I feel like there is no coming back from this. I have no idea if I should try or just give up.

AITA?

So my bf (30m) and I (26f) have 2 kids (5 years and 1 yr). He barely helps me (changes 1 diaper a week, doesn’t cook dinner, doesn’t drive, doesn’t support me or the kids emotionally or spiritually, etc.) So today I’m exhausted I homeschool and I just lost my job a few weeks ago so I’m actively job searching (my career is done remotely). He bought food earlier for himself and our 5 year old because I had a lactation appt with my son and then we had mommy and me story time where they provided food. Then I came home and he told me he’d order some food for dinner. So I didn’t cook anything. It’s past dinner time like 8pm and I’m like where’s the food and he goes “I’m not ordering nothing I buy food for lunch everyday since you don’t cook me food for lunch.” And now I’m irritated because I coulda took some meat out since everything is frozen I don’t have anything to feed our daughter right now. I got mad and told him leave me alone I need some alone time I didn’t wanna take my anger out on anyone in the house. Instead of giving me space he forced our 5 year old to stay in the room with me knowing I need space and then gets in the shower. Then after he gets in he gets dressed and comes in here trying to tickle me and gets aggressive when I tell him to stop picks me up throws me on the bed which I hurt my leg then he calls me fragile and tells our daughter to tickle me while I’m in pain so I get even more mad and tell her not to and to stop she doesn’t listen because she thinks I’m playing. So now it’s 11pm, my child still hasn’t eaten, and my leg hurts. I’m just so tired of his toxic ass bs.

On top of this, he’s a 50/50 type person so even though I have barely any income he wants me to pay half the rent $900, car payment and insurance $500, utilities $85, as well as personal expenses and things for the kids. I get food stamps so I don’t worry about that but there’s days when I’m just exhausted and don’t feel like cooking. He refuses to help or he says “I work 11 hours m-f” which btw he’s a security guard so he literally sits on his ass on his phone or he’s walking around doing nothing.

What do I do?

My baby is almost a month old and he’s currently cluster feeding and because of that he has been crying more often my husband has been getting mad at me because of the baby’s crying, he has yelled at me and the baby because of the baby’s crying and he blames me for the baby the baby crying sometimes after I hold him even if it’s not for long saying that hold him too often. He’ll yell at me if the baby cries in the car I don’t know what to do about this.