Struggling mentally with TTC

I currently have a 5 year old and we finally decided this past November that we would like to expand our family. I never could have imagined how mentally difficult TTC is. We conceived our son accidentally, so we’ve never been through this before. My husband is absolutely fine with everything. Meanwhile I’m finding this one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. We have been apart about 2 months that we’ve tried and also didn’t time it well on other months as I was still trying to learn my cycle, so I guess we’ve had 2 cycles now where everything has been “right” . It’s hard to wrap my head around doing this no birth control or protection and it just doesn’t work . But I feel like I’ve already seen so many negative pregnancy tests and it just feels so cruel. I would like to give my son a sibling so badly and it’s so hard when he is always telling me how much he wants one too. I just feel like I’m letting him down. Anyway I just had to vent and see if anyone else can relate or offer me any reassurance (please be kind as already I feel so vulnerable and upset).

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November is still really early pls try not to stress 🫶🏻

We got pregnant straight away with our first (first cycle that we tried) where as with our second, 5 years later, it took over a year. It’s a common thing apparently

Have you tried ovulation strips? We tried for a few months without any luck and turns out I wasn’t ovulating when I thought I was. Bought strips so I knew when peak ovulation was and fell pregnant pretty much straight away x

Pregnancy will happen when you atleast expect it stop pressuring it and it will happen naturally might take a while but when your time is right in life you will know

It took us 16 months to conceive our first and the disappointment felt all consuming at times. I was so obsessed with my cycle, the anticipation, trying, and then disappointment. It was so easy for everyone around me to tell me to “stay calm” and “it’ll happen when you’re most relaxed”. Those comments made me feel more alone.

Just here to say I feel you on the mental toll and what you’re feeling is okay. It will happen. And I’m sorry it’s feeling hard right now 💗

It’s so so hard! I remember wondering often how can so many of us go through something so challenging and still have to look positive/normal (for those who don’t know we’re trying), keep up with work, etc.

It took me around 10 cycles in the end for a successful pregnancy, at which point I was seriously doubting it was possible! So keep your hopes up and know that you’re still in the early days and chances are good if you’ve managed to conceive before x

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I'm kinda going to miss it just being the two of us

I'm 19 weeks and I was just thinking how it's going to be quite the change for my husband and I when the time comes (around February). We get along perfectly and I don't have any worries about us transitioning to parenthood.
It's just I'm going to miss snuggling before we sleep through the night. Going out on a whim and take no time to get ready; only putting my shoes on and heading out. Staying out late whenever or driving an hour out to try our luck at the slots. Or going to the bar for dinner and coming back home to watch anime with more brewskis.

But we did plan this and I have zero regrets. We get to start a family and that feels more fulfilling to me than partying with my husband all the time. It'll just be sometimes after my little man doesn't need me as much lol.

I don't regret anything especially with how much support we have. I'm anticipating a big change and I think it's valid I feel that way.

Massive nursery shortage

Anyone else not got a nursery spot? I’ve been on the wait list for a May 27 spot since the beginning of the year and no hope. I’m on 3 wait lists and also childminder wait lists too.

Since the funding came in it’s gone crazy

Please read if you can 🥹🥹

I’d love some opinions please! 😅 I was seeing a guy and we recently fell out, so I told him I’d give him some space. We’re meant to have a weekend together next week, but when I asked whether it was still happening so I could arrange childcare, he responded quite bluntly and gave me an ultimatum. I didn’t engage with it and reiterated that I was giving him space.

It’s now been a week and I need to know whether next weekend is actually happening so I can sort childcare. Would you message him and ask directly, or leave it because he already knows the weekend is meant to be happening and that I need to arrange childcare?

My Sorry BD and His Overbearing Mother

Just for a lil backstory, me and my bd are 19 and 21. I broke up with him at 5 months because he was lazy and had no drive. He blamed that on being on house arrest although he was still allowed to work. I moved out from his place at 7 months cause it got worse and I was close to delivering. He eventually got off house arrest and two weeks later I had our son (at 34 weeks). Within those couple weeks, he called me the N word (he’s white) and things have never been the same. My bd and his mother are the most narcissistic people I’ve ever met. He constantly hounds me about getting back together and being a family that it’s got to the point where I only talk to him about our son. ANYWAYY, his great uncle passed recently and his family held a small memorial and he wanted to take our son. I’ve never met that extended family. He wanted to take him across state lines on the longest drive he’s ever been on. And my son is still 6 weeks and was born premature. When I told my bd no he made it seem like I was absolutely insane. He said things like my dad makes it hard for him to be a father because my dad doesn’t like him for what he said and he’s not allowed at our apartment AT ALL. I told him no when I was at work and his mom was babysitting. When she dropped him off, she asked when she can pick him up for the memorial. I told her me and my bd were still discussing it. When I cussed him out and told him he needs to tell his mom they’re not taking him, she felt the need to text me for an explanation cause ig he didn’t give her one. My own mother told me I need to communicate with her cause my bd isn’t and my dad is blaming me for ever making my bds mom feel like she has the right to ask. I don’t think I have a neutral person to tell me how exactly to handle both my bd and his mother. Thank you for reading me venting and any and all advice is helpful.

How do you have time for anything?

Babies just turned 4 months. My OH works from home for himself mon-thurs (maybe 6 hours max a day) we have a toddler that goes to nursery tues-thurs and we get help from my MIL on Mondays. And even then, finding the time to clean/eat/wash clothes/walk dogs etc is impossible. How on earth do people do it?

I feel like I'm running on fumes and wanting to strangle my husband at the weekend for not pulling his weight.

1 on 1 time with our 2 year old!

I want to make some one on one time for our 2 year old with mummy and daddy. I’m exclusively breastfeeding our youngest so I can’t spend too long away from him. Looking for recommendations of fun things we can do for some lovely bonding time! We would like to try and make it a weekly thing that we can look forward to 😊