Mom's going through divorce/separation/ breakups

I honestly don't know how I feel.

My husband and I are currently married but we live separate. I live at the house with the kids due to my job being remote. He comes over on the weekends then leaves when the kids are in bed. He doesn't help me financially with the bills or the kids so its all my paycheck which isnt alot. Well two weeks ago he started yelling at me for no reason but according to him I "disrespected him". So its been bugging me bc he only got that way when he was hiding stuff. So today I decided to check his phone and I found where he was paying 3 women for sexual favors and videos and he was meeting them when he told me he was working late. He doesnt know I know either. I know im in the wrong for even snooping but this isnt first time this has happened. He done it twice before we got married and I forgave him.

Im just not sure about anything. Like I want to cry bc im hurt but then I cant cry. Idk. He also has a lot of money sitting his account bc he let that slip out to me. So igs his bills consist of beer, gas and escorts. While mine consists of d-all the above. I dont go no where I stay at home all the time except to school functions, im not "suppose to talk to people without him knowing."he says he doesnt care but I know behind closed doors ill get accused of having something going on whether its a male or female.

in our community

What would you have done…?

Grandparents asked to take our daughter out for the day. She did not want to go (she’s 5) and has been saying since last night she didn’t want to go out on her own with them and couldn’t we all go.

So told my husband this and he said “she will change her mind when they are here” 🙄

They arrive and she says still, she absolutely does not want to go out and wants to stay with mummy and daddy.

I let her stay home = very angry grandparents.

Would you have made your child go?

Am I being tested? Wwyd?

- Partner says he's going for a quick bath
- Turns on the emersion as there's no hot water after his teenage son had one
- 2 hours later I ask him for support to make dinner
- he hasn't taken his bath yet so he says he'll have one and then make it for us
- another 2 hours go by before he comes down and decides to take our toddler for a walk. One which was completely random and out of routine.
- Finally he comes home and makes dinner

I'm absolutely starving - 6 months pregnant by the way. I'm avoiding conflict with him as he's trying to give up smokes right now, and I don't want our conflict being his reason for regressing and slipping back to his addiction

Inlaws/frosting

I don't know if I'm too emotional or what but my baby is 2 months old & my step FIL decided to give my girl a tiny finger of frosting. Knowing he wasn't supposed to be because he looked around the room seeing if anyone seen. I don't want people giving her anything she's not supposed to & i also feel like he just took that moment from me & dad. Am I wrong? I can't talk about it anywhere else & its been on my mind all night long because I'm so upset. & I'm not allowed to be.

Unacceptable comments

Feeling very frustrated and angry at my partners comments. For context, we both work full time but I do 100% of the cooking and taking care of the household. He only helps assist with school pickups on the days I’m in the office. I ensure ALL of his food is prepped throughout the week which involves lots of batch cooking and I also cook fresh meals for dinner on the days I’m working at home. Keeping in mind he has never cooked for me or even heated up pre cooked food in the fridge for me, I come home from working in the office and there will be stacks of dishes even if he’s been at home on his day off.

This morning I have had terrible period cramps and he saw me multiple times rocking back and forth and in different positions trying to calm my cramps. It’s Sunday and usually he’d be working but he has the day off. We have come home from being out with the kids and he has asked me why I haven’t thought to cook for him.

I grew up in a home where Sunday dinners were cooked fresh and you spend time as a family, but he’s always working Sundays, only eats meal prep on that day and also he does not like me to cook when he is home. So today is no different, I have already pre cooked pasta bake, chicken, rice and potatoes and burgers in the fridge so there is plenty for the kids and him to eat.

He just told me that this is the reason why men (specifically referred to the man that his mother is dating who has a wife that he is cheating on but dating his mum for the benefits of her cooking and taking care of him). He referred to this man and said this is why men cheat, because the woman at home can’t be bothered but there’s other women out there that will do so much for them.

I am FURIOUS. I get no compassion when I have cramps and still expected to do everything. He doesn’t ever cook for me. It’s always what I should be doing for him!

Is it normal or common for 10 year olds to engage in sexual activities?

I just read this in a comment section and I’m flabbergasted. Is this a common thing?

competitive in laws

Has anyone dealt with competitive in laws ? My son’s aunts on hubby side are quite competitive.

Eg one says she taught my son to kick a ball , when my hubby and I already taught him

One said they taught my son to do other things when he was already doing it

It’s like they’re trying to find something to be first in

I’m not used to this in my own family , so I’m just not sure if this is a common thing and how I should feel about it