Am I being tested? Wwyd?

- Partner says he's going for a quick bath
- Turns on the emersion as there's no hot water after his teenage son had one
- 2 hours later I ask him for support to make dinner
- he hasn't taken his bath yet so he says he'll have one and then make it for us
- another 2 hours go by before he comes down and decides to take our toddler for a walk. One which was completely random and out of routine.
- Finally he comes home and makes dinner

I'm absolutely starving - 6 months pregnant by the way. I'm avoiding conflict with him as he's trying to give up smokes right now, and I don't want our conflict being his reason for regressing and slipping back to his addiction

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When everything’s calm, I’d cutely (like light hearted) “babe I’m pregnant… we can NOT play with dinner times 😂 it was 4hrs past when you said you’d make it and I was so hungry but I didn’t want to make it because you said you would. I’m not mad and I’m grateful you did eventually make it, but next time can I have a more accurate time?” Or something like that 😂 just so it’s not making it a big deal but also making for a better future 🫶🏽

I would not have waited, I'd have made food as there are children in the house who cannot be made to wait 4 HOURS for food!
Why are men so exhausting!

I would have made dinner as loud as possible 😂 but that’s just me

Next time I’d make food for me and the kids and eat while he’s taking his two hour bath

You are soo sweet to consider his smoking! That’s soo pure I hope he can see that and help you out more !

That was very insensitive of him and selfish just because he's not hungry doesn't mean that you and the kids aren't hungry. But I wouldv have made dinner never I don't want three kids and I to go 4 hours without dinner. After 2 hours I would have just made dinner myself. But overallhe should have made dinner quicker knowing that you and the kids were hungry.

If he took the toddler out randomly, I think he went to smoke. Speak up momma, he needs to figure things out and adjust now. Don’t worry about making him mad by speaking up, either he’ll behave like his true self now while you’re pregnant or after the baby is born, either way it’s going to come out. Go to couples therapy if you think it will help but don’t hold back, I made that mistake too. There was no point.

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What should I do?

So my partner brother and family are flying back to Poland for Christmas

My partner is wanting to go too for Christmas and he has said he’s going with or without me (I have no annual leave left and I don’t want to be away from my son for a week)

We went to Poland this summer and there was about 10 people in one house my son stopped eating and just cried the whole time we was there & I have raised these concerns and all I get is ‘I’m going with or without you’

I’m prepared to end my 9 year relationship with him if he does take him away when I have raised my concerns and said no he’s not going

I have said he can go before or after Christmas I just don’t want him going during Christmas my fav time of year and he knows I do all the bdays and Christmas plan it all out do all the presents get everything ready

It will honestly break me if he takes him

His mum and dad was over while my son was 4 weeks old……phones multiple times couldn’t get hold of him & he was gone for about 5/6hrs when he said he would he 1 - yes he’s apologised for this but he still did it

I don’t know what I can do🥲

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I don't even know im tired and angry

Who else is a 24/7 mom? Because I really don't want your opinion unless you are one. We are a single income house with two children while we homeschool , and I get absolutely no time alone whatsoever unless you count being asleep alone , in which case I am woken at unnamable times by my toddler as they do. But I am going unimaginably, incredibly insane. I am tired of the constant whining,Crying, needing, and feeding.... anything you can think of a child would need I am the bitch for it. I'm not saying my husband isn't just as exhausted sometimes after he comes home from work, but he immediately sits down to play games or watch TV and gets instantly angry when the kids whine or cry or get too loud for him to be able to play his game or watch TV. And he is screaming and yelling at them. When I have been the one home with it all day and deal with it. 24/7 I don't even watch my own shows anymore. I can't remember the last time I picked up a physical book for myself or anything I actually enjoy that I didn't think twice and wonder if the kids needed something before I did.