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- Partner says he's going for a quick bath
- Turns on the emersion as there's no hot water after his teenage son had one
- 2 hours later I ask him for support to make dinner
- he hasn't taken his bath yet so he says he'll have one and then make it for us
- another 2 hours go by before he comes down and decides to take our toddler for a walk. One which was completely random and out of routine.
- Finally he comes home and makes dinner

I'm absolutely starving - 6 months pregnant by the way. I'm avoiding conflict with him as he's trying to give up smokes right now, and I don't want our conflict being his reason for regressing and slipping back to his addiction

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When everything’s calm, I’d cutely (like light hearted) “babe I’m pregnant… we can NOT play with dinner times 😂 it was 4hrs past when you said you’d make it and I was so hungry but I didn’t want to make it because you said you would. I’m not mad and I’m grateful you did eventually make it, but next time can I have a more accurate time?” Or something like that 😂 just so it’s not making it a big deal but also making for a better future 🫶🏽

I would not have waited, I'd have made food as there are children in the house who cannot be made to wait 4 HOURS for food!
Why are men so exhausting!

I would have made dinner as loud as possible 😂 but that’s just me

Next time I’d make food for me and the kids and eat while he’s taking his two hour bath

So, 4 hrs of being told he'd shower- he doesn't shower & rushes to take your kid for a walk that he rarely does, if never, just to prolong dinner by 5 hours? What was he doing in the bathroom or for those 4 hrs that he was "taking a shower"? Why'd he go on a walk? Why couldn't he have made dinner before going on the walk?

Giving up cigarettes, or whatever he smokes, shouldn't be a cause for a parent/partner to be neglectful, inconsistent & unable to be communicated with regarding his negative & odd behavior.

It honestly sounds like a porn, secret drugs, secret smoking or drinking & trying to cover it up but that's prolly just my trauma 🤷🏼‍♀️

Also, the last time I witnessed this was a coworker who was doing meth in the bathroom & would stare at the mirror for hours picking at his face (it was a gas station job & the manager was desperate for people).

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Feeling very frustrated and angry at my partners comments. For context, we both work full time but I do 100% of the cooking and taking care of the household. He only helps assist with school pickups on the days I’m in the office. I ensure ALL of his food is prepped throughout the week which involves lots of batch cooking and I also cook fresh meals for dinner on the days I’m working at home. Keeping in mind he has never cooked for me or even heated up pre cooked food in the fridge for me, I come home from working in the office and there will be stacks of dishes even if he’s been at home on his day off.

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I grew up in a home where Sunday dinners were cooked fresh and you spend time as a family, but he’s always working Sundays, only eats meal prep on that day and also he does not like me to cook when he is home. So today is no different, I have already pre cooked pasta bake, chicken, rice and potatoes and burgers in the fridge so there is plenty for the kids and him to eat.

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I am FURIOUS. I get no compassion when I have cramps and still expected to do everything. He doesn’t ever cook for me. It’s always what I should be doing for him!

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