Do you think a mom can be committing SA to make her 3 year old nurse?

I think SA is a strong word maybe she just isn’t ready to let her baby grow 🤷🏼‍♀️ but either way super weird and especially if he’s done with it, she needs to stop.

Think the weird thing here is to sexualise breastfeeding.

If she is making a 3 year old yes that is concerning. Breastfeeding should be led by the child not the parent. If my kid was 3 and didn’t want to nurse I’d be happy lol cuz I did it til 20 months with my first and by the time she weaned I was glad it was over

Is this her last baby? Perhaps there’s a mental disconnect coping with not having a baby anymore. A 3 year old can drink from a sippy cup let alone a normal cup. The breast is really made for babies and there’s even anatomical and physiological reasons related to birthing a baby for that not a 3 year old. She can pump her milk if she really wants him to have breast milk.

I get why you ask if it’s SA especially if he doesn’t want that. I’d define it as maladaptive, but could be SA if it’s for her pleasure and not his benefit.

I don’t see any reason to breast feed past under the age of 2. If breast milk is considered not enough to maintain nutrition for your child then that means breastfeeding isn’t needed. I know there’s studies out there that suggest breast milk to still have good qualities past a certain age but at that point I’m sure broccoli and carrots could compete with that. In other words feeding your children healthy foods I believe is just as good as breast milk.

I don’t necessarily believe that a SA tag is quite appropriate, but it is most definitely not exactly a healthy thing to do to force a child that age to nurse. Do you know the reasoning behind it? Was that maybe a one off or have you witnessed this happen more than just the once (contextually, it does not sound like it)? Could be that he was just caught up in some new big exciting thing (mommy’s friend was over so he got to have some device time (not a common occurrence, maybe)? Could be that he may fight the nursing, but if he doesn’t his naps go from 2 hours to 20 minutes? I mean, there’s a million and one potential different reasons as to why she could be making this decision, so to speculate as to her reasoning (with exactly zero evidence ) and, in my opinion, to attach a SA label, is, completely and totally inappropriate.

I think it's not ok to force a kid any age to breastfeed or eat... I don't think it's sexual assault tho as bf is not a sexual act.

She could always pump and put milk in a cup for him. I wouldn't tag it as SA unless she seems to get some kind of weird pleasure from it. She could be not ready to let him grow up or she could be trying to use breastfeeding as a weight management tool for herself

What’s the difference between a family member making you touch a part of their body you don’t want to touch as an adult and making a 3 year old do that? There’s no difference. In fact you should be more sensitive to respecting physical boundaries of children to show them what proper boundaries are. He’s going to grow up thinking it doesn’t matter what he wants he needs to do whatever someone tells him. Or worse he will replicate the behavior to future friends/girlfriends when he’s older.

I wouldnt call it SA because idk the intent but it’s definitely weird and boundary crossing especially if the child is actively saying no. I know some women feel like useful and close to their child through breastfeeding and I think passed 1 year it’s mostly for the mom and not the actual child because they should be eating real food at that point.

The intent of mom needs to address. But the mom is in the wrong for forcing. My fist child nursed till she was over 2 but I had to ween her because I was pregnant with my second and wanted my body back for a bit.

With my second we stopped a little after a year but was on her terms. I felt like I was forcing it so I exclusively pumped for about a month to ween her into whole milk. Are journey ended there on her terms. Was definitely a mixed of emotions because I didn't feel ready but she was.

Your friend my not feel ready to end this journey of connection but is wrong for not listening to her child. So the intent is what make me hesitant on calling it SA.

Is it a form of assault, sure but not sure if its sexual in nature unless she gets a form of sexual pleasure from it. But she may be having hard time letting go of that mother- child connection with breastfeeding.

I wouldn’t call it SA. But I also don’t know why one would push nursing onto a 3 yo. I feel like our kiddos tend to tell us in their own ways when they’re done nursing ( for the most part. Not always). If at 3 they don’t want to, why push it????

Sexual assault is is probably not the correct term unless she has a sexual manner or intent behind the action. That being said it is definitely wrong to force a child to breastfeed. If you really thought it was SA I hope you said something to your friend …

If this was my friend and she was truly forcing the breastfeeding I'd be asking if she was OK. Maybe she doesn't realise how it looks from the outside and needs a bit of a wake up call, like maybe she's struggling with her mental health and is just trying to do the best thing for her child. So I'd bring it up after the moment has passed and just gently ask if everything is OK/why she felt she needed to insist and try to support her from there, allowing for some initial defensiveness but being a non judgemental space for her to talk about it. "Basically made him" doesn't say a lot, was he screaming whilst being held to breast or was it more of a convincing? Idk how well you know them but maybe he does this a lot then decides he does want to minutes later and kicks off again so she's just trying to avoid the double tantrum?

Idk kinda weird, but everyone is different. Me personally I wouldn't breastfeed my 3 year old, I would pump then mix my milk into the baby food or something like that. I don't think it's SA but definitely a bit odd for sure.