Cheating man

I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and my man has been cheating on me since I was 16 weeks pregnant. I am getting fat and he doesn’t want to have seks with fat people. He says he loves me and that’s Just casual seks without meaning and he is bored most of the time. But he has multiple dating apps, random girls on Snapchat and instagram. He currently is in Spain for work with a friend and he is also going to have seks with woman there. He says it will become less or stops when our daughter is born. But I don’t know what to do or feel. I just love him so much.

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Girl, I would leave. You are not “fat” you’re literally growing a whole human. And after you have the baby, the weight doesn’t just disappear overnight, so if he’s already acting like this, it’s likely not going to change.

I know this might be hard to hear, but a man who is willing to cheat on you while you’re pregnant with his child is not treating you with love or respect. That’s honestly so foul. And beyond that, it’s not worth putting yourself or your baby at risk, especially if he’s being involved with multiple people while traveling.

Leaving is hard at first, I won’t lie. But it does get better, and you deserve so much more than that.

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Darling, you might love him, but he doesn’t love you. I know that might be hard to hear, but no decent man who loves his partner cheats on them period, let alone when their woman is carrying their child. Please know that you deserve so much better than this. He is showing you who he is. Would you want this for your own child? It’s hard, but we have to model to our children what is acceptable. He will not change. Find the strength within you to leave, for your sake and your precious child x

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If he loved you he wouldn’t be treating you this way. It’s disgusting. You deserve better, you are worth more, and you can absolutely find yourself a better man. Obviously logically it may not be a good time to leave but make your plans and get yourself set up for when you can. Please don’t settle for such a low bar. If he sees you accept this now he’s will never stop treating you badly because he knows you’ll accept it.

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Cheating man

I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and my man has been cheating on me since I was 16 weeks pregnant. I am getting fat and he doesn’t want to have seks with fat people. He says he loves me and that’s Just casual seks without meaning and he is bored most of the time. But he has multiple dating apps, random girls on Snapchat and instagram. He currently is in Spain for work with a friend and he is also going to have seks with woman there. He says it will become less or stops when our daughter is born. But I don’t know what to do or feel. I just love him so much.

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