Back to work

Hey all 😊

How is everyone coping with returning to work ? I’m due to go back to work next month. I am in no way mentally ready to go back and especially not ready to leave my little one yet either.
I’m afraid of letting go of my current job but feel like that’s what I need to do at least until end of summer and then go back to work (I’d need to find a new job). Ultimately this is not an easy decision. Please share your experience!!

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Mom bestie/texting buddy!

Hello I’m Lily. I’m 26 & have a 5 year old boy named DJ! We are from Ohio! I enjoy reading, being outside , riding motorcycles, & being w my family! We can’t wait to make new friends🩷

Maternity leave- bonus pay

At my company I normally get a bonus annually in March. I went on Mat leave in October 2025. I was expecting my bonus to come through this month however just checked my payslip and no bonus which I was really disappointed. My line manager has left the company just right after I went on mat leave so I don’t have a manager to contact. Has anyone been in similar situation? Am I being treated unfairly because I’m on Mat leave hence the no bonus pay?

Cheating man

I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and my man has been cheating on me since I was 16 weeks pregnant. I am getting fat and he doesn’t want to have seks with fat people. He says he loves me and that’s Just casual seks without meaning and he is bored most of the time. But he has multiple dating apps, random girls on Snapchat and instagram. He currently is in Spain for work with a friend and he is also going to have seks with woman there. He says it will become less or stops when our daughter is born. But I don’t know what to do or feel. I just love him so much.

Should I Get Over It?

I met my BD August 2024 and found out I was pregnant February 2025. few days after I found out I was pregnant, I went through his phone and saw him flirting online with strangers. I had caught him a couple months before that on a dating app and thought that was behind us. I was angry and still tried to work things out after he begged and swore it wouldn’t happen again. I was 30 weeks pregnant when I caught him on Tinder again. To my knowledge he’s never physically cheated but I still count what he did as cheating. I crashed all the way out on him and at 7 months postpartum, we’re not together anymore because I’ve been giving him hell about it. But I admit, I’ve been allowing my rage to get the best of me and he told his family about it. His mom and sister told me that because it wasn’t physical then it doesn’t count as cheating and it has really put a bad taste in my mouth about them. They’re really cool people outside of that though and they help out so much. Way more than my own family. His mom and sisters want me to move 8 hours away to be closer to them so they can help me out more with the babies (I have 7 month old twins) My BD is in the Army and deploying soon so I’ll have no physical support at all if I stay here. Should I let it go and accept the help?

If I don’t like my ob can I just request at the hospital to not have my ob there?

I really don’t like my ob attitude. Can I just show up at the hospital ready to give birth and not have that ob deliver my baby? Because every time I goto the hospital they always wanna contact my ob provider and tbh she sucks!!! I’m in the middle of trying to find a new provider but I’m on Medicaid so it’s kind of not that easy :/

Not feeling connected to baby

I just had my second baby a little over 3 weeks ago and I don’t feel connected to him like I did with my first. Almost instantly with my first (girl) I felt this like insane connection to her and I still feel that way. This time around I do not feel that way. Don’t get me wrong I love my baby boy but is there something wrong with me for not feeling connected or bonded to him like I did with my daughter? Tell me I’m not alone… I feel awful for feeling this way. 😞