Hospital and home visits

How do you feel about hospital and home visits after the baby is born?
My in laws want to go to the hospital but I want to set boundaries and have time to ourselves to allow us to settle in.

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What ever you feel comfortable with then it’s up to you. There are a lot of people who don’t want visitors and prefer to settle in. You need to be clear before the baby is born what your preferences are and if anyone is upset by it then that’s their problem

Well that’s totally your choice and if you let them know that they should respect it. I’m actually fine with visitors (family) in the beginning purely cos I live an hour away and don’t see them all that much anyway so I’m quite looking forward to them coming & meeting baby. The only thing I’m anxious about is germs. I feel most of my family wouldn’t turn up with a raging cold & would wash their hands etc before touching baby. I also think it’s impossible to be 100% germ free, especially as our 4yo will still be going to preschool 3 mornings so no doubt picking germs up there 🙈
I’ve had 2 babies and had visitors within the first week and it’s not too bad. They don’t stay too long and I also know my partner enjoys having someone else around as it can be quite overwhelming for him having to look after our 4yo and do all the cooking and cleaning for 2/3 weeks straight. You could just invite the people you want there and feel comfortable with, if it’s getting too much just go out the way x

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