Sleep regression - first signs?

For those of you who are in the throes of the 4 month sleep regression, were there any initial signs this was coming? My daughter is still ok overnight atm (touch wood) but during the day she is pretty much guaranteed to wake up after 40 mins on the dot and I am wondering if this is a sign of what’s to come at night. We didn’t have any regressions with my first (unicorn) baby so unsure what I am looking out for/whats in store?!

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Co sleeping

Maybe I’m being dumb but I don’t understand the concept of co sleeping for those of you who do it when baby doesn’t stay down in their cot. Am I missing the point or is there no difference in the two? I put my baby down in the bed the same way I put her in her cot. Am I doing it wrong? She wakes up and cries and doesn’t want to stay down. She wants to be held. I’ve tried to hold her, lie down and the roll over so she still thinks I’m holding her, but there’s too much movement and she wakes up regardless of co sleeping. Do other mums hold their babies or cuddle them when co sleeping? From the lullaby trust I can see that the baby is not being held in any way, so I can’t understand how I’m supposed to sleep if my baby doesn’t want to be put down even when co sleeping..

Am i a bad mom for not wanting another baby?

I always wanted 3 children, close in age too.
I have a 1 year old and oh my god I love her to absolute death, but motherhood is not what I thought it would be and it’s made me not want more children.
Every time she has a bad night, I tell myself I’m closer to not having this anymore.
Every time she’s teething, I tell myself we’re closer to not teething again.
I’m constantly worrying about her milestones as she’s behind, it’s making me sick with worry and it makes me so sad that I’m wishing this time away just so I can see her reach these milestones to see that she’s okay.
The thought of going through this all again gives me such anxiety, that for my health I can’t do it, but I know that makes me really really selfish as my partner wants another along with her moms wanting more grandchildren.
Will this feeling pass? Am I making the right decision only being 1 and done? Please tell me your thoughts. Thank you

Evening cluster feeding 🙃

Little one is 3 weeks old tomorrow and from about 5pm onwards he wants to feed every 45 mins to 1 hour! Which is right when we’re doing dinner, bath and bed with my eldest 🙈

Thankfully this seems to stop at 10/11pm and he does 3(ish) hour stretches overnight but it feels like I barely have chance to put him down before he wants the boob again.

I don’t remember my eldest ever going through a cluster feeding stage. Anyone else dealing with the same?

Mantras getting me through month 4 with my previously amazing sleeper 🥹

As most of us are currently going through it with sleep, i thought I’d share the things I’m telling myself at 4 in the morning when she is frantically thrashing around trying to connect her sleep cycles.

“Despite what people call it, this is not a regression. She is not going backwards, she is learning something new.”

“She is a baby doing baby things - sometimes they don’t make sense”

“Her brain is going through a massive change. Regardless of how tired I am, she is building something that will stay with her for life.”

“I can only help give her the foundations to get through this, this is something she will learn for herself, in her own time.“

“I am lucky that get to be here to watch her learn this new skill.”

“I will sleep again.” (Probably the most important one)

I know I’m finding this period tough, because before now we had a baby who only woke once during the night. These are nice reminders I repeat to myself when I’m tired (and awake at 3:45). I hope they might be useful to someone else in the same position.

Do your daughter/son stand and walk on their tippy toes

How long have ur daughter or son walked on their tippy toes and when does it resolve on it’s on

Bedside Crib / Cot

What is everyone using once little one grows out of the next to me bedside crib (so hands are touching the sides, slowly reaching the max weight ect) are you going straight to the main huge cot or an inbetween? Our cot is so huge and turns into a bed eventually but I didn’t want to move it into our bedroom from the other room just yet but might need to.
Any recommendations?