Breast-feeding and formula feeding support

Ready to give up.

My ready to give up. My baby girl has not latched in over a week and I’ve been exclusively pumping because she has not latched. I’ve been offering her in my breast every time she’s hungry. She’s just not watching and if she does latch it’s for maybe a minute and then she’s screaming again we’ve had to supplement with formula since she was three days old because my supply never came in pumping is taking a lot out of me physically and mentally and I’m ready to just be done. My husband keeps trying to make me feel better, but honestly, you’re just making me feel worse. He’s found a couple TikTok’s to help me increase my milk supply, but it’s just more pumping and more pumping and I can’t anymore. I’ve been triple feeding since she was three days old and it’s been almost 8 weeks. I know I’m not a bad mom for stopping but I feel I should be able to push through because it’s only been seven weeks she’s been alive. I’ve talked to a lactation consultant that basically made me feel like I’m failing and I’m the problem. I don’t know where to go from here. Thank you for reading.

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I’ve been through it, I cried because I hated pumping and baby just stopped latching at 2 months old. I hated pumping. But I did get a different pump (spectra s1) and it’s been pretty smooth since. Takes me 5-10 minutes to empty and it’s gentle but powerful. Also since it’s really good at pumping out milk, it boost my supply up too. I did get lucky that she still latches at night so I don’t have to pump at night but at day time she’s bottle feed unless she’s sleepy and doesn’t know what’s what she will latch then. I did hear coconut water helps with supply but I never tried since I hate coconut

You’re not alone. I just made the decision to be done after 12 + weeks of trying to get my son to latch. The feelings you’re having are completely valid and like you said, you’re not a bad mom for stopping. Sometime you have to make a decision for the sake of your mental health so you can be available and present with your daughter and husband.

It’s not a decision that is made without deep thought and if others don’t approve or understand that’s on them 100%. You’ve done well sticking with it for as long as you have. I commend you for doing all that you have for your daughter.

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