Napping in seperate room

My baby is 15 weeks old and goes to bed at 7.00pm, he wakes for a feed at 5.00am and then goes back down until 8.00am. We used to keep him downstairs in a moses basket in the evenings until we both went up to bed and would transfer him to his next to me cot. However, he now struggles to sleep in the living room even with dim lighting and talking quietly etc, so we have started putting him down in his next to me cot upstairs in our bedroom at 7.00pm and he is much more settled.

I know that NHS guidance is for baby to sleep in the same room as you anytime of the day or night until 6 months old, however 7.00pm is too early for us to go up to bed and we often haven’t had chance to eat or do chores by that time.

How are other parents managing to eat dinner, do chores and spend any time together as adults?

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Following as I’m in the same predicament 🥲

Personally I think you just don’t, and that’s okay. It’s better to be safe than sorry. One person does th chores, one is up with baby. One person eats dinner, then the other person eats etc. it’s not the best for the relationship, but if it’s something you openly talk about, then it is manageable (and if once a week or once a month, someone can come over and be with baby whilst you have dinner, then great. We didn’t have this, but it would have been nice)

I’d say as long as you’ve got a camera on the baby and are checking every say 20-30 minutes then I don’t see anything wrong with it as it’s only for a couple of hours in the evening.

As for the chores I’d do them during the day or first thing in the morning instead and use that time for either dinner or to spend time together as you also need that time in the evening for you and your partner as you don’t want to find you’re neglecting one another as that’s when the strain and resentment often creeps in x

My LG is 13 weeks old. We are in a 1 bedroom flat, she goes in the bedroom between 6/6:30 we give her bottle and bed. She sleeps till 2 or through the night and wakes up at 6/6:30 everyday. We have a baby monitor on and check her regularly. But i think it does her good napping/sleep in a room on her own and she is able to go to sleep independently. If were home she has her naps in her cot alone in the bedroom too in the daylight. Its given us our evenings back to do chores and eat together which is needed to have a good relationship xx

I wouldn't risk it. Twice I've caught my LO silently choking in her sleep by accident ( just walking past or checking in on her) and shes been in the same room as me. I'll never let her sleep in a separate room until shes at least 8 months. I go to bed with her at 7:30/8pm

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