Help with nursery costs

Hello
Please could anyone advise on help with nursery costs? I am clueless!
We currently only get child benefit as I thought you couldn't claim anything else at the same time.
We will be eligible for Flying Start soon so I am not sure whether to apply for that or for Tax free childcare instead.
Or could we claim both and still get child benefit?

I am totally clueless but our nursery costs are going up and up and I'm not sure what to do 🤯
Thank you!

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