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Hi 👋 looking for some advice. My MIL is very pass remarkable and I'm usually thick skinned enough not to let it bother me. But today she really got to me. I'm currently 8 months pregnant and obviously have a bump but I haven't really put weight on elsewhere. My bump isn't even that massive (yet) and my baby is measuring average to be about 7.5 -8lbs at birth. But today she kept going on about how huge I was and how my baby will be massive. When I corrected her and said actually she's on track to be average around 8lbs she gasped and said that huge and she'll destroy me and how bad birth will be with such a huge baby and how hers were only 6lbs. Honestly, it's really upset me and now I'm an anxious mess. I've no idea how else I could have handled this in the moment. Any advice on what I could have said?

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Don't let her get to you like that. Honestly, some people just don't know when to shut up or be nice. My MIL is the same and honestly I couldn't give 2 shits what she thinks. She's lucky I even go round. Just keep your distance until baby is born and tell your partner who you feel about what your MIL said. Maybe address it the next time you see her and tell her you didn't like the comment and it was rude.

Talk it out next time. Maybe she didn’t realise she was being rude and adding to your anxiety.
Opinionated MILs tend to come up with more unnecessary opinions and advice when baby is born, so have a chat with your partner about setting limits in place before so there’s no conflicts. It’s so important to prioritise your peace of mind post partum.

Don’t tel her anything about ur pregnant or labour ew

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