SLEEP TRAINING - this is a last resort! I don’t know what to do anymore!!!!!!

We did a modified method of Ferber; very shortened intervals. We would go in and rub their backs, I would sing quietly, caress their cheeks. We initially did it with my first as I was still a working mother operating on zero sleep. Worked amazing for my first, worked in 2 nights. Did it with my second child and she was sleeping great after 3 nights.

I’m also very anti-sleep training for so many reasons, but we needed to make sleep more consistent for our current needs. I found this lady who is very gentle and baby-led in how she teaches sleep, very science based. I’m just starting it but love it so far, and she has so many good reviews! Might be worth checking out. She has a book as well.
https://mothernourishnurture.com

I used a gentle ferber sleep method and it’s honestly saved me, i’m a single parent so it’s always on me to do bedtimes and it started to become exhausting we co slept for the first year of his life he’s now 19 months and takes himself off to sleep every night and sleeps through i’m much happier and so is he. It takes patience he did cry the first couple of times but it is so worth it in my opinion i get hours of me time before bed🙂

We have just done some habit stacking, been very gradual and gentle and we’ve never left her alone, while there have been some tears she’s generally been pretty ok with it and always known were there. She was a wake every 40mins-1 hour since the regression kind of baby and now wakes once or twice for a feed. No regrets as we’re all much better rested for it, including her, but also have never left her alone to cry or not be comforted as her attachment and happiness was a priority for us over the sleep too

Reading some of the suggestions mine would climb on top of me or try to! I did lie down and wait for her to fall asleep but she got crafty and wanted me against the wall and would pin me in by clutching the butterfly on my bra. No suggestions but she was a nightmare. Health visitor suggested putting a stairgate on her bedroom door although this was when she was slightly older.

I am against sleep training bc her cries mess with me mentally. So I hold her till ik she is sleep sleep then I slowly put her in her crib. She usually sleeps about 8-10 hrs and wake up 1x through the night

I did the “wave” method with 5 minute intervals. You only let them cry 5 minutes at a time but if they cry for 2 minutes and stop and then start again, then the 5 minute clock starts over. So no more than 5 minutes of continuous crying. Good luck!

Just cosleep.

If you sleep train, you're just teaching her that you won't be there when she needs you. It doesn't stop her needing you.

Co sleeping helped me loads but I know that isnt for everyone. There are some real gentle sleep training methods out there though that could potentially help. Even putting them down but staying with them to rub their back and talk to them etc if they are crying is hugely different from leaving them to cry, they know you are there and comforting them so their cortisol levels drop down where as when left the levels raise and stay raised because of stress. Still hard hearing them cry and I couldn't personally do it but as I said co sleeping worked for me luckily so I didnt have to. I'd start by researching gentle no cry methods though and choose what feels right for you, it will be a slow process unlike CIO because they quickly learn no help is coming and stay stressed but stop crying, doing it gently will slow it but teach them comfort is there when needed