Uk mums - when you’ve had a dentist appointment and you’ve had your little one with you, were they allowed to stay in the appointment with you?

I desperately need to go to the dentist because my mouth is quite sore and my husband is away and I don’t want any childcare because it’s half term. Last time, I was at the dentist appointment with my little one the dentist shouted at me for being her with me even though she was just sitting there quietly (she was 2 at the time). So I had to get my husband to come get her. My husband doesn’t come back for another 2 weeks and so desperate at this point, I feel so uncomfortable and feels a bit swollen. I don’t have the dentist anymore but it still makes me so nervous because I haven’t been since and my daughter is nearly 4 now.

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i wouldn’t be comfortable bringing my child with me without another adult. i can’t tend to him with someone’s hands in my mouth. i feel like once they get to the age where they’re responsible enough to sit by themselves for a while without direct supervision (i’m guessing like 7-8?) then i might but definitely not a toddler.

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How do you think she would be with sitting in the chair in the room with you? I would probably call and ask if it would be okay for her to come in. I did take my son when he was about 5 months old but he just stayed in his car seat. Now would be completely different, I know he would be crawling around the room 😅

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I’ve only taken my son as a newborn where he sat next to the chair in his car seat and one other time at 2 and my adult niece came with me to sit with him while it was my turn in the chair and then he had his first appointment after himself. I think it will depend on how the child behaves, I know for a fact I wouldn’t be able to leave my son unattended while I’m laid back in a chair unable to see, that boy won’t sit on his bum for 5 mins🤣. I always have to work dentist appointments around childcare.

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I always go to the dentist with mine and we’ve never had an issue, maybe ask if you can see another dentist as opposed to the rude one? If it involves x-rays the assistants usually take my Lo out the room and then back in. She sits in a corner and they give her stickers to fiddle with. If it’s just routine then she sits on my lap / lays on my chest x

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Yes but I pay for private (can’t get an NHS dentist). When little they stayed in their pram asleep or playing quietly. Now bigger, they have a sticker book or watch the tv. My dentist has a tv to watch whilst on the chair so he spins it for them and puts CBeebies on. Then he checks them.

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The dentist who shouted at you sounds like a total arsehole

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Uk mums - when you’ve had a dentist appointment and you’ve had your little one with you, were they allowed to stay in the appointment with you?

I desperately need to go to the dentist because my mouth is quite sore and my husband is away and I don’t want any childcare because it’s half term. Last time, I was at the dentist appointment with my little one the dentist shouted at me for being her with me even though she was just sitting there quietly (she was 2 at the time). So I had to get my husband to come get her. My husband doesn’t come back for another 2 weeks and so desperate at this point, I feel so uncomfortable and feels a bit swollen. I don’t have the dentist anymore but it still makes me so nervous because I haven’t been since and my daughter is nearly 4 now.

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