I feel like a terrible mother

I am 5 weeks pregnant with my second and my anger is through the roof. I feel like I am snapping and screaming at my 22 month too much. My hormones are killing me and I feel like I am a horrible mother. I can’t control it and I feel terrible. Has anyone else gone through this??

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This is so common. It's alot to deal with! If you're not the morning sickness type, have a snack. If you've been sitting, start walking around. Try putting something cool on your face, or popping outside for a deep breath of fresh air. Try giving your husband (or your child if they are interested) a loooooong snugly hug. Give your physical problem (the hormones) a physical solution. Also, feel free to use earplugs. Even if you just use one at a time, it can really help with feeling overstimulated by your LOUD toddler.

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If you talk about this in your next OBGYN appointment, they may be able to give you recommendations.

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The second pregnancy rage is literally uncontrollable. I thought something was wrong with me most of my pregnancy because of how easily I’d get angry and want to burn bridges. It does get easier by the second trimester. Hang in there💛

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... you are in double postpartum and not enough people talk about its intensity difference from regular postpartum with the first...im in that zone and have rage moments but then dip into sad moments to reflect along with giving myself grace cuz hormones are everywhere and the first postpartum could range until 7 years put now with another on the way id say we'd be in pp zone until maybe next 3-7 years min.

My tips?: gift yourself grace, space to reflect, a therapist, a journal and deep breaths...it got better by my 3rd trimester.

Need a virtual hug, i am here....with a 17month old and 32 weeks pregnant.

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