Where did I go wrong??

You have done nothing wrong at all!!! Every child is different and even if we all treated our kids the exact same as each other, theyd still be different! Weaning is hard and our infants are full of big emotions and theyre just trying to learn how to express them, its challenging but its normal x

I don't think that's fair , some parents who are really loving with their babies are just really lucky with babies who sleep through, it's not that they are left to cry. That's an unkind generalisation and could leave some mums reading this feeling bad about themselves when they've done nothing wrong.and just got lucky.

Babies all go through séparation anxiety, you are doing nothing wrong, it's totally normal. It's a hard phase and exhausting for the main care giver (I feel the same and my girl is the same with me) but it gets better over time I hear! We just need to hang on in there but I really hope you get comfort from the fact that loads of mums are in the same boat ❤️ giving your baby a nurturing home is the best thing you can do but it won't stop the anxiety,.it's just a normal phase of development that will pass like any other xx

I feel like this often 🙌🏼🙌🏼 Breastfeed day and night for 17 months and still do, I am a stay at home mum, co sleep, literally feel as a slave to my own child as you said 😄🙈🙈 Barely any space to breathe. And baby girl is very clingy, maybe because of no nursery who knows. But I am not calm, I shout 75% of the time, have tantrums (yes me, not the baby) and I cannot say I am happy. So being calm, or the opposite as you see makes no difference. My child doesn't hurt us, maybe bec of the shouting who knows, but that's about it, I feel the same 🙈🙌🏼🙌🏼

Also feel you here! This is my second baby and she is still.much more reliant on breast feeding through night and in day compared to my first who by this point just had 1 feed a day before bed. I've done nothing differently, they are just totally different babies so I promise you it's 100% not you! It's wonderful you have provided such constant and committed care and these babies will start to feed a little less as time goes on but I feel.your frustration too as I would like to stop Breast feeding now and have absolutely no idea how I could ever actually do that with this baby. She also has bad separation anxiety too. Exhausting😮‍💨

I have twins. We have treated them exactly the same. There’s a huge development leap now where separation anxiety peaks. Some kids handle it well. Some really struggle. My twins have the same routines, one will happily sleep through independently. The other will do the first 3 hours alone and then the rest of the night with me in my bed. Both of them are normal toddlers just dealing with things in their own ways. It’s nothing you’ve done. It does pass (I have a 5yo too and came out the other side of we’d never have tried for another 😂)

Look at any other mammal in nature they stay with their young until they can fend for themselves including sleeping together at night. Independent sleep is a societal creation not a biological norm

Thank you all for your lovely replies, that does help me feel better. The reality of motherhood is so much harder than I expected, in ways i didn’t expect. I thought by 18 months he’d sleep well, everyone had told me teeth didn’t make a difference to breastfeeding (it’s ruined everything!) and the insane separation anxiety is like nothing I ever imagined! But it’s nice to know it’s not my fault, and I’ve not ruined him! I’m only trying my best 🥹

Exactly the same position here, has to be me seeing to her through the night every 2-3 hours, still breastfeeding and many tantrums when I say no when she asks for the 100th time that hour lol xxx