Potty training day 1

Today was day 1 of potty training our 21 month old via the "Oh Crap" method. We also have a 3 month old.

All I can say as the day comes to an end is that was absolute carnage.

She stayed naked all day, fine. We had bed pads and towels everywhere, and tried to keep as calm and positive as possible. However, we had soo many accidents, despite looking out for signs, she just goes. She did go once or twice on the potty, but we had to take her there ourselves and sometimes keep her there as she peed because she tried to run off. She becomes scared when she needs to go, and cries when we take her to the potty, despite all the encouragement and positive reward. She's obviously holding it in too, and is crying from discomfort.

What's everyone else's day 1 experience? Any tips or advice for tomorrow?

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I wouldn't worry that she's holding, mine held it to the extent she was only doing 3 wees a day for the first 5 days of potty training. If yours has had multiple accidents and a few successes then she's still doing quite a few. Did you read all the oh crap book? Because it does say the first few days are more for information gathering purposes. For some kids it clicks immediately, some it takes longer. Overnight there will be time for both you and her to process. It's always going to be stressful because it's a big thing, I decided to stick with it because we waited until ours was 3 and after those first days it's gone really well. I'd say yours is young enough that you could decide to try again when she's a bit older. I personally wouldn't be forcing her to stay on the potty to go if she's really upset. Better that she wees herself and learns from that. Then it's a simple "uh oh, wees go in the toilet or potty now". I'd also put away all those towels and whatever, get carpet cleaner if you have carpets.

I have a different big tip for you: please look into EC elimination communication for your 3 month old
I started my boy with 3 months old and by 1 year 95% of his number 2's went into the potty. It's a dream and saves you tons of diapers. Please try!

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How would you react ?

Today was my husband's day off and he woke up around 6 having coffee in bed and was on his phone. . At 7 a.m my little boy woke up and asked to go pee then at 7:30 asked to eat. I then took him and went downstairs to make breakfast and he got so frustrated and started an argument that on his day off he can't relax. I must say he was not sleeping, he was just staring at his phone and now he ignores my child and me.

2 weeks

I finally got my own apartment and left my husband 2 weeks ago today. Im honestly surprised how civil he's been. But I knew that he'd be with other women immediately, and I thought I was okay with that. The fact that he's still even with nothing to lose because I left, lying to me about being at another house is driving me crazy. I have his location and drove by there the other day so I know. Its. It healthy for me to concern myself with I know. But I cant handle the quickness and the lies. I know this is how he copes, he cant be alone and probably why hes being so nice after I left.

Advise!!!

Ok so this Easter Dad is supposed to have 5 nights with our 2yo (court ordered) I’m fine with it. I think our child will struggle as they already struggle with a 2 night stay, but it’s ordered so it has to happen. There is no mention in the order that these are in addition to his regular contact it just says the child will stay with the father for 5 nights at Easter, there was a conversation in court about it only been 5 as it was to build up the nights gradually.

He is now trying to tag it to his weekend meaning he will have 6/7 nights. I don’t agree with this as like I say 2 nights are hard for the child’s it is so 5 is going to be hard and I don’t want to add to it.

My solicitor has said until he agrees I should not let him have her. I agree and I don’t want to give into him as he is very much all about control and abusing me not doing what is right for the child but I am also conscious that the child then misses out on a little holiday away with his family all for the sake of 1/2 nights. It seems so silly.

What’s your thoughts and advice??

If you’re not close to your mom - what went wrong?

Now that I have kids I want a strong and close relationship with my babies. Something I didn’t have with my mom and still don’t.

My mom and I see each other once or twice a year and that’s if I go there to visit her. We don’t talk on the phone unless she wants to call me to ask my younger sisters to go back home.

Never comes over to see my 3 kids never calls to check on them avoids me when she sees me out with my family.

When I was a teen we argued non stop. For years until I left the house. But before that I was always the good child always listened always did what she asked. I was the oldest so did everything for her went above and beyond. I bought up my younger sisters stayed up late nights fed them changed nappies bath them took them out on weekends. My sisters don’t remember her doing any of these things because she never did them. And now she hates them staying at my house she calls non stop.

She’s manipulative and twists things a lot. I have other siblings and she pits us against each other without us realising. Only now as an adult I’m picking up on things and how she manipulates around things.

help

I have two kids and I’m just fed up, years of physical and mentally abuse and the constant cheating my kids deserve better. my kids can’t goto school yet and I don’t trust local daycares. how do I still work my part time with little to no family ?

Partner working all the time

Does anyone else have a husband that literally just works all the time I am honestly so drained I am literally so exhausted 😩 😭 I am just on my own all the time I feel like it would probably be better if I was just a single parent sometimes it’s just so draining.
I am currently receiving postnatal support as since giving birth to my second I have been struggling I had a really traumatic time it’s Easter weekend and I am just sitting at home not having the energy to do anything he literally works Monday - Saturday all the time till 5am-7pm.
I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar situation does it get better I just don’t know if I can carry on with this relationship I hardly see him and when I do it’s pretty much bed time.
The washing is piled high the house is a mess and I don’t have the energy to do anything other than to look after my two children.