Sleeping at Night

I gave birth on 31st March. FTM struggling, my baby hates being put down, hates the next to me crib. We’ve tried swaddling, sleep bags, white noise, any advice I would be so grateful. I haven’t had much sleep since giving birth so grateful for any tips

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I gave birth on 5th March and my baby has probably slept about 5 nights in her cot.

It's totally normal for newborns to want to sleep on you. I know this isn't helpful but you kind of have to just stick it out.

I have been waiting until she falls asleep on me, and then when I know she is in a deep sleep, transferring her slowly. This has worked, but only if she is in the mood for that.

I don't really have any answers for you. But you have got this and it does get easier.

Will she sleep in her crib in the day? If so, try and get some sleep then if possible.

Happy for you to message me too when you feel lonely in the trenches

My baby hates the next to me crib. He was born beginning of March. Only sleep I've managed is co-sleeping. I put on warm pj's and took the duvet off the bed and put him next to me.

I feel you here, my baby was born 1st of march and hates the next to me but my hubby just won't let me co sleep either like completely against it so I'm struggling with lack of sleep as I do nights and days when he's working x

The lullaby trust has some good advice for safe co sleeping

Same! Our baby is a week old tomorrow and so far my partner and I have had to take shifts being awake with sleeping with her on us as she won’t go sleep in the Moses basket or the next to me. It works ok at the moment as we both get about 4 hours sleep each. I’m thinking I may try co sleeping too at some point x

The happy cosleeper on Instagram has lots of practical advice

Place a hot water bottle on the mattress and remove it just before baby goes in there so the mattress is warm, we’ve also had the same issue and this worked fairly well.
We’ve now started having a bath at 9pm, followed by changing, bottle and putting her in the cot awake but keeping the room dark and we’re slowly getting better nights sleep. We’ve gone from taking shifts because she’s not sleeping, to her having a 2 hour sleep stint to now 3-3.5 hours between bottles xx

Ours didn't seem to settle in the next to me, I felt like it was too big for him. We've been using a Moses basket and that seems to be working so far x

Thank you everyone! X

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