Sleeping at Night

I gave birth on 31st March. FTM struggling, my baby hates being put down, hates the next to me crib. We’ve tried swaddling, sleep bags, white noise, any advice I would be so grateful. I haven’t had much sleep since giving birth so grateful for any tips

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Have u tried cosleeping safely? It’s quite normal for baby’s to be like this. They go from being in ur womb all cost to being left in a crib they need to adjust x

I gave birth on 5th March and my baby has probably slept about 5 nights in her cot.

It's totally normal for newborns to want to sleep on you. I know this isn't helpful but you kind of have to just stick it out.

I have been waiting until she falls asleep on me, and then when I know she is in a deep sleep, transferring her slowly. This has worked, but only if she is in the mood for that.

I don't really have any answers for you. But you have got this and it does get easier.

Will she sleep in her crib in the day? If so, try and get some sleep then if possible.

Happy for you to message me too when you feel lonely in the trenches

My baby hates the next to me crib. He was born beginning of March. Only sleep I've managed is co-sleeping. I put on warm pj's and took the duvet off the bed and put him next to me.

I feel you here, my baby was born 1st of march and hates the next to me but my hubby just won't let me co sleep either like completely against it so I'm struggling with lack of sleep as I do nights and days when he's working x

The lullaby trust has some good advice for safe co sleeping

Same! Our baby is a week old tomorrow and so far my partner and I have had to take shifts being awake with sleeping with her on us as she won’t go sleep in the Moses basket or the next to me. It works ok at the moment as we both get about 4 hours sleep each. I’m thinking I may try co sleeping too at some point x

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Everyday I have to wake up my husband like a little kid to either help me or take our oldest to school if I don’t he will sleep till who knows when.
He always tells me to wake him up but tbh I feel like he should just do it on his own he’s a grown man. Then I feel like I annoy him and he’s in a bad mood when I wake him up. But if I don’t he says it’s my fault being overwhelmed with the kids because I didn’t wake him up. It’s like a lose lose battle for me.
But I’m curious in how others are? Is it just my husband or are others sleeping in too? Do you have to wake them up or do they wake on their own?
Also 10m pp and haven’t slept in since we had our toddler 2 years ago so crankyAF and jealous he can sleep in and I can’t 😒