I have no friends, no career and I feel trapped.

I’ve always found socialising really difficult. I have made a few close friends over the years, but those friendships ended up being quite toxic, and we’ve recently fallen out. In a way, I feel relieved because I’d been wanting to break that cycle for a long time, and now I finally can.

Making new friends has always been hard for me. I do try with people, but it never really seems to be reciprocated. I’m usually the one reaching out, and people don’t often ask for my number or follow up with me, which can feel quite discouraging.

I’ve also been diagnosed with ADHD and autism, which has helped explain why I’ve always felt different and why I sometimes feel like people just don’t like me. I do wonder if my fear of rejection or my desire to be liked might actually push people away without me realising.

I’ve always wanted a close group of girlfriends to spend time with and share experiences with. At the same time, because of my ADHD, I’ve struggled to stick to one career path. I’ve had so many different interests, and now I’m in my 30s without a clear career, which makes me feel quite behind in life.

I think happiness comes from having meaningful experiences with friends and family, and from doing something you genuinely enjoy. Right now, I feel like I’m missing the friendship side of that.

But I am really grateful that I have my two children — they mean everything to me.

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Oh mama, our babies sure have a way to make us feel like something when we feel like nothing! We are a lot alike and if you want, we can message each other and be friends? I know socializing is hard esp when you have been diagnosed with ADHD and autism, but youre awesome and don’t ever doubt that or forget it!!

Can you start some new clubs within hobbies that you enjoy? Could be a way to meet like minded mamas/women. Also are you in the uk? There’s a new app I’ve come across called grounded? Or something like that that groups you up with local women who have shared interests to do hiking or wild swimming etc. and you get to choose where you meet up and start meeting up regularly.

It’s a really lonely feeling (I feel it too a lot) but online this feeling seems to be a dime a dozen which say to me it’s so so common and lots of us feel the same way (which hopefully actually makes you feel a little less lonely/isolated) xxx

Hey I'm sorry you feel that way! I've felt a lot of those feelings for years too, especially since moving away from my friends in London. The kids really, really help with making you feel like you have some sort of purpose, and you are fulfilling it - trust me! I'm happy to chat, feel free to DM if you like! X

I agree w Ellie, am outside hobby can help. And it’s actually good for people who have social anxiety coz you don’t need to talk to anyone IF you don’t want to, everyone’s focused on the hobby at hand. But you slowly get to know everyone’s names over the months and they all slowly know who you are. I’ve made lots of friends at hobby, I choose to socialise. But I know some people duck in and out and are quite shy or have social anxiety. Joining a hobby also means you’re joining a “community”. I never knew how big/popular the dance community was until I joined it.

in our community

PLEASE I NEED TO KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT THIS GROUP!

Please I have a question! 90 percent of moms out here looking for friends!Is it that you don't really know what you want? Because I've had experience with different moms here asking for friendship and after few chatting and getting to know about each other I get ghosted! Some go as far as blocking me! If you're not sure of what you want then I don't see any reason asking for a friendship! My experience here isn't encouraging! I rather talk about other things on the other group than making a friend here that isn't ready!

Sex with boyfriend on the bed I share with my son

Hey everyone. Just here to seek advice as I feel somehow about this. I’m a single mom to a 16month old baby, his dad is involved in his life and have him 2/3 days a week.

I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for 5months, he stays 3hours away and he comes once a month to see me, he always book an hotel when he comes as i didn’t feel comfortable having a man in my house. I’m planning to invite him over this month but the thought of having sex ( it will be our first time if we do it) with him on the bed me and my son share doesn’t seem right and it feels like I’m disrespecting my son even though he won’t be in the house when he comes. He’s a nice guy and I really do like him but I don’t know if I’m over thinking it or we might just do it on the floor 😂

Make It Make Sense!

How do I get blocked for calling somebody out on their mess? You’re making posts ranting that no one wants to be a real friend to you, but when someone reaches out and makes an effort to connect, you take weeks to reply. Then when they call you out u wana block them. Girrrrrrrrrl 🙄

Birth control

I might sound stupid but are there pills that are non hormonal? I only would ever go on pills for birth control but scared of the mood changes as i already have anxiety and depression. Please help x

Call?

Who tryna call im bored ?

ex friend?

just want to vent- not in need of advice but like comments are fun, put yourself in my shoes and see how you would feel. lets talk

long story short short, but this girl and i used to be friends like besties in highschool and we stopped talking because she didnt like my bf at the time and we reconnected when we were both pregnant, i reached out to her and became friends again since we both had babies at the same time pretty much! so it was so fun, we slowly started doing baby classes weekly together and she came over to my house outside of the city every week, it was fun and she loved where i lived ( the country) so i helped her find a place to live by me, i can see her house from mine. before she moved we were counting down days and said it was going to be the best summer ever- all these plans, beach all the time. I helped her with everything, helped her pack her house up, gave her boxs, gave her house warming gifts, offered her everything i even mopped her floor and organized -anything she needed help with - bought us meals i even gave her gas money when she was struggling. i gave her so many expensive things, i just like being kind and a good friend. once she moved in the house, she never came over or made plans, slowly stopped talking to me, i offered to hangout with her go on walks but she said baby was sleeping. anyways i basically got a bad vibe and stopped asking her to hang out, and she never texted me or asked me to hang out. so thats it, pretty much just was a one sided friendship and i guess she didnt value it so it fizzled out… so sad because i see her sometimes and wonder like? maybe she is jealous of me and maybe she just felt like taking advantage of my kindness and took it for weakness and thought she was better than me? like, being treated well by me doesn’t mean you’re above me. it means i treated you well.
anyways, so weird, i guess i will just continue not to talk to her because she obviously doesnt value our friendship and i will never be the one to chase anything, there will be those people in your life who are there for a season. im just confused mostly- there is more to the story just bits of things where she just proved to not really be a good friend