Debating

So when I was five months pregnant I found out my bd got another female pregnant. A month before I got pregnant. Long story short my bd is currently in jail. My baby 2 months now I’m debating on if I should find this girl no drama attached just so she aware that her kid does have another sibling out here or just let it be? I do for a fact know she doesn’t know that I had a kid right after her and that he was dating both of us . When he was on with me he was off with her vice versa. His family knows and kept us both in the dark I had to find out on my own. Any advice on what I should do is appreciated. I also don’t know her name so I would have to ask my bd for her info

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I would definitely tell her. That’s just me tho. You shouldn’t be the only one holding that weight !

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I would let sis know.. she could be putting money on his books thinking he was faithful.. make her aware atleast and the sibling thing does matter if she responds crazy.. atleast you ca say you let her know

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I think as long as there’s no malicious intent behind it and you do truly want her to know her baby has a half sibling out there, I don’t think there’s an issue with reaching out. I’d just be very clear you’re not trying to start drama but you want your baby to have a relationship with their half sibling.

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The problem is I don’t know who she is I would have to ask him and I’ve looked through his social media and I can’t find her nowhere

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I’d tell her too. It’s important for the kids to know they have siblings too.

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