Resentment towards my fiancé

I can’t help but feel resentment towards my fiancé for not giving me the option to quit my job. He sees how stressful it is and I’ve told him in the past that I would prefer to be home with our baby. The issue is that I make more money and he has never been financially responsible, I found out about his debt when I was pregnant. I can’t help but feel this way. Am I wrong for feeling like he should be providing?

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It’s is job to provide financially while you look after the baby. I’m sorry you feel this way

I can see where you're coming from but I feel like in the world we're living in it's simply not that easy to live off of one person's wage and it's an unfair expectation to put on a person. If he's still being financially irresponsible then he needs to grow up and get things in order and be 100% honest, but to be a SAHM usually involves making a lot of sacrifices at home or having a partner with an extremely high income. I just don't think that's very common any more. If you love him and he's a present loving partner and father and does his best, that's much better than a partner who doesn't give a shit but has a lot of money, right?

Well if it wasn’t agreed on then yes ur wrong. U know you’ll be unhappy about ur financial situation if u stayed at home and he worked then u wouldn’t get a break. Being a sahm is overly glamorised. U can’t be mad at him for saying u want something that he can’t give u

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