Anxiety thoughts….

I’m 3 months pp… I have had anxiety for awhile but since my son was born its a whole new level of worry and anxiety. I feel like I have been grieving my son since the day he was born like he is going to die or something bad is going to happen every day…. I constantly feel like I’m not going to protect him enough or even worse something I have no control of is going to affect him. I carry constant guilt being away from him or if I’m not paying attention to him when he is in the same room. Looking away makes me feel bad… I know its excessive and I know its okay to have a break but… yeah I cant help it. I thought alot of it had to do with my hormones pumping so I stopped that… and still here we are… I literally cant bring myself to go to sleep tonight.

The only other thing I could think of that is attributing to the anxiety is there were two significant times I thought we were losing him during my pregnancy because I was bleeding alot…

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I had this myself and it was only our Health Visitor who pointed out that its a sign of post natal depression and no that is not a dirty word or makes you a bad mum at all.

I've been on medication to help and I'm a lot better, don't get me wrong I still worry and check him in his sleep but it's not as overwhelming now and feels more normal to me when I find myself worrying rather than a full on panic hope that helps 🤗

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Youre doing an amazing job. Please reach out to your health visitor or a nurse at your gp practice they will help you. Your little one will benefit greatly too. Be proud that you’re doing this for you & your little one.
Sending hugs x

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Sounds like you may have a bit of postpartum anxiety. Talk to a health visitor, GP or even self referral to a perinatal mental health team. Theyre all there to help you.

I had bad anxiety (and depression) at the start. I hid away because i felt like a monster for it all. The perinatal mental health team really helped me with my self confidence and working through why I had the worries and thoughts

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That sounds like post partrum depression I had it with all 3 of my babies along the way it's not a bad thing but it is a hard thing to go through constantly worrying over things that may never ever happen seeing things that hasn't happened and oh yes the guilt thag eats at you but I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry so much speak to you're Dr or HV don't be scared it happens to 85% of women who give birth it's not a thing to want to go through and you can get through it with love and support don't keep you're self to you're self and talk about it that's the main thing find a safe space with someone you trust and talk about it, that's one thing I didn't have and I got through it all 3 times alone and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do ever but you got this.. 💜💜💜

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I too have anxiety, and I too went into a spiral (my baby is also 3 months old). I was scared someone would kidnap her, she was going to die, intrusive thoughts of falling down the stairs etc. I wouldn’t leave my house. I wouldn’t eat. It was horrendous. I finally had the courage (yes I say courage because it took a lot) for me to go to my 6 week check up at almost 9 weeks. My doctor prescribed me that newer medicine zurzuvae that you take for only 2 weeks and can also be taken with depression medication. The intrusive thoughts stopped in 3 days. I was leaving my house within the first week. You 100% need overnight help with the baby while taking this medicine, but it’s literally a lifesaver. This may be something worth looking in to. You’re not alone!!

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