Has the regression made anyone else question having another child?

I have had it rough! 😫 This is only the first one, which has gone on 2 months. My sister has 3 kids and didn’t even know what it was as she never had it like me! I also have a friend who has a baby same age who hasn’t been through this either. Wild how different parent journeys can be.

I thought 2 children would be nice and now maybe not.

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I knew I was one and done but the regression is certainly getting to me 😅

Mm i change my mind every day at any point 😂 when my children are so cute together or at night i just have an urge to have a third but in the day and its extremely chaotic im like take my ovaries im done

Im sorry you’re going through this regressions are honestly the worst my daughter is sleeping in hour increments for weeks and its genuinely killing me x it does get easier my son was 2 before i considered another baby like properly considering if i could do it again

I was sure I was one and done until we recently came out of it. I know it's difficult to think like that now, but regression doesn't last forever, it is insanely tough though!x

We’ve got two and with our first we hit every regression going…by the time she was 18 month we forgot about it all. Once she was 2 we knew we wanted to have another and even now having 2 I’d love to have a third!

Everything up until this point has made me think one and done. Don't get me wrong I absolutely adore little man but wow it's so much harder than I ever expected!

My feelings fluctuate. Pregnancy wasn’t easy, and looking after him is a challenge, that’s for sure! But I’d love 2. We also have the added bonus of needing IVF to conceive so if we decide to go for it, it’s gonna cost a couple grand.

My first daughter didn’t sleep one full night until she was 14 months old. It was incredibly tough. Newborn she was up every hour and by about 6 months she was up every two hour’s. She’s always been a low sleep needs child and still is. She does finally sleep through the night now but only 9/10 hours. The lack of sleep made me not want another originally. I had my second when my first turned 2 and she’s the complete opposite. Sleeps through the night the majority of the time and has a solid 12 hours. I haven’t done anything different. Honestly it’s down to your child’s temperament and nothing you can really control. Just remind yourself you’re doing a great job and one day they will sleep. Having a baby that doesn’t sleep makes postpartum (which is already hard) soooo much harder 💖

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Sleep!!

Our little girl at 10 weeks just slept from 730pm to 430am. She fell asleep on her dad and in bringing her upstairs at 10pm she was still fast asleep so decided as she was fed just before that to leave her until she stirs. She’s usually a good sleeper on the first stint of the night with atleast 6/7 hours but tonight she’s gone 9! Besides a little leakage as I’m exclusively breastfeeding I have no concerns. Would this one off affect my milk supply? For context when she woke she fed for 10 mins which is average for her and was content/ didn’t seem to be struggling.

Constant crying in the mornings

I need help I'm literally losing my mind with my 16 month old I literally don't know what to do I'm physically going crazy I feel like I can't do this anymore I suffer from fibremielga and cfs and my life is so so hard and it just feels like it continues to get harder I know what she's crying for but I comfort her and give her what she's crying for just to shut her up and she still continues to cry my older boys was not like this and people say it's girls but that doesn't help me the pressure on my chest is like a elephant sitting on me I have no friends or family so no help so here I am.

Cleaning girls privates

My baby is 3 months old, I noticed she was red in between her lady parts. Which would make sense as to why she didn’t want to be sat and kept straightening up her body ☹️ I cleaned with warm water and sudocream.

Mammas with girls, what’s the best wipes? Or do you just use warm water and a cotton pad? How do I keep her little area red free? Does she need a bigger size nappy also? Any advice welcome!

Sex

Has anyone else not done the deed after giving birth yet?

I am 13 weekspp and feeling guilty for not spending 'quality' time with my partner. He's been very supportive and that it's just I feel so tired at the end of the day I just don't have anything left in me.

We also have a 3 year old and I do the housework and I also exclusively pump so any free time I have gets taken up. My 13 weeks old girl doesn't like being held by anyone else apart from me or my partner so handing them off for a few hours wouldn't work she also contact naps during the day which is fine as she sleeps through the night in her cot. Once they go to sleep I'm in the kitchen washing up bottles and preparing for my last pump of the day and MOTN pump I don't usually end up going to bed until 11:30pm.

Milk

I gave birth March 15th and my milk has come in but isn't leaking out, will it leak out at any point or is it too late?

Footless pajamas

Why do sleepers become footless at 12 months?! Do they really regulate body better? Are you still putting them in sleep sacks? Using socks? Or giving a blanket? ((Room ranges in the 70s))