Would you be pissed?

My mum gave my daughter a bath last night at hers. Her cousins were staying over so shared a bath with the youngest. Never had any issues before and she loves it. There was an incident where she was stood in the bath and fell over (i wasnt there and had no idea this happened. No one told me a thing)
Got a paddling pool out and she usually loves it as she loves a bath and splashing loads. Not today absolute hysterics. Wouldn't go near it or touch it. Wouldn't let go of me. Tried her with a water table so she could stand and splash. Same reaction. I lost my shit with my mum and the girls. As that's when they were like oh shes probs scared cause of what happened last night. Its like excuse me? So all the hard work I've done with her to be comfortable in the water and swimming lessons etc is all out of the window. Dreading giving her a bath. From loving it and giving everything and everyone around her a bath to most likely screaming the house down.
Not a clue what I'm meant to do about it. I'm more pissed that no one said anything to me. Her cousins were trying to help calm her down but they were just pissing me off even more cause they weren't helping at all. Just wanted to tell them to fuck off (I didnt but thats how I felt) fuming doesn't come close to it
Am I over reacting for feeling this way or is it valid? I know it wont change anything but... 🤷‍♀️

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Yes you're over reacting.

Kids have accidents, they fall. Bath refusal is actually really common around this age so whilst it may have been triggered by this unknown event, it could have happened anyway. Getting angry with children who are trying to comfort your daughter is not on.

Yes it would have been better if your mum told you, but if there were no injuries I wouldn't expect to be told about every single slip or bump. My in laws watch my son 2 days a week, they don't tell me every time he falls over when out for a walk.

I think you are over reacting. Kids do fall over etc all the time and she obv wasn’t hurt.
This one event doesn’t mean she’ll never enjoy the bath or water again.
Maybe it would have been nice to have been told. But they were obviously looking after her responsibly and very close to her in the bath to pick her up immediately . These things happen 🤷🏼‍♀️
My 1 year old slipped in the bath because she kept trying to stand up yesterday. She was fine. And she got in the bath fine today

You're overreacting about the water refusal, she will get over it sooner or later.

You are not overreacting about them not telling you it happened, what if she hit her head or gulped/choked on some water and they didn't realise? Those are things you have to be alert and watching for symptoms in the following 24-48 hours. So yeah, I'd be mad about that part personally.

Yeah. You're overreacting. My daughter his stood and slipped in the bath loads. She did it twice this evening because she kept moving off her no slip mat.

The water refusal, she'll get over it. As for Paddling pool. My daughter LOVED swimming immediately. LOVED the bath immediately.

Paddling pool? Absolutely not. Not until I'd warmed the water up to bath temperature. We managed to get 10 minutes out of her when id boiled the kettle 10 times and it had been in 36 degree heat last summer for two days.

I'm sure if she'd HURT herself, they'd have told you.

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