Am I wrong for telling my friend I think he should get tested for STDs after what he told me about his girlfriend?

Last week he told me that his girlfriend was sick and throwing up. And then he told me again today that she felt sick again and that she thinks it is a stomach bug. I asked him if she was pregnant and he says "No she got her tubes tied." I told him "it is still possible to get pregnant after that but it is rare. And if she is then it is probably an ectopic pregnancy." She has a history of being on drugs but he says she stopped years ago and she still smokes weed even though she stopped the other studf. And they have cheated on each other before but I don't know how far they went when they cheated. I asked him if she has any STDs and he said no. I said "well people who do heavy drugs have a higher chance of having an std and stds can weaken the immune system." I told him "If its not an std then maybe it is a hang over." If she keeps getting sick a lot then I think it is more than just a stomach bug. Either she is back on drugs and having hang overs or she has an STD or some other kind of illness. He himself has also been sick several times during their relationship but he keeps claiming that it is from stress. Also, her symptoms sound worse than his. They also fight a lot. Their relationship is very toxic.

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I’ve never heard anyone say “you should get checked for STDs” because they have a stomach bug.
Regardless, I think people should be getting regularly tested.

In my early 20’s, I was dating a guy who I thought I was madly in love with. I thought we were gonna get married and have kids, the whole 9. He cheated on me multiple times. Gave me chlamydia, and gonorrhea. I had no symptoms of either except some bad discharge that smelled funky. I never got sick.

Honestly, i see several issues. If her tube thing didnt work and she is pregnant...ITS WILD AS FUCKKKK to me that you just casually threw in "its probably ectopic"..it was unnecessary, truly. Also, to say because she has a history with drug use she has "a higher chance if having an std" like....huh. it would have been...more understandable to say that people who go seound cheating on their partners hve a higher chance at getting an std or ppl who go around having unprotected sex...meaning, HE could have caught one and gave it to her. Did you ask your little friend if HE has stds? Just that whole convo...didnt feel like you were talking to him as a friend or meeting him with curiosity but more so judgement ...towards her.

She could be relapsing. Sure. She could have an std that she could have gotten from him, since they cheated on one another. Or she could be ACTUALLY sick...as a friend, you should encourage him to help his partner make an appt and maybe encourage him to offer to even go with her for support

Not your relationship not your business. He's GROWN and make those kinds of decisions himself. Putting that bug in his ear of STD will do absolutely nothing but cause him stress and thinking she's still "cheating" and he has a STD even before he actually take a test. So just take a back seat and keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself

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