Done having kids?

How do you know you’re done? Do you ever truly feel done? My son just turned 1. I have a 1 and a 2 year old, but I have a desire to have another. I feel like something is wrong with me. My husband is dead set on not having more anyways, so I’m not sure what to do.

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3 is not an abnormal or large amount of children, especially for Catholics, but even just in the general public. So definitely don't feel like there's something wrong with you for not feeling like your family is complete.

Why doesn't your husband want more?

I used to dream of having five kids, but after having my son, I feel completely different. I honestly don’t think I want any more children, and I even feel strongly about getting my uterus removed in the future. I’m not entirely sure what shifted in my mind, but I also have this feeling that I might never be able to love another child the way I love my son. I know that sounds harsh, but I believe it wouldn’t be fair to bring a child into the world if I couldn’t give them the same unconditional love I have for him. Right now, he’s my everything, and that’s what matters most to me.
So maybe in your case your husband feels complete already with a tad of drained ?
All I can say is approach this situation how you would if the table was flipped what if he wanted more kids but you were set on no more ..would you want him to feel the push ?and if he feels complete where you guys are at maybe comfortable is what he knows and wants
Talk to him and tell him to not put the idea completely aside

I’m done. I know I’m done. I’ve had 3 babies and 3 c-sections. After my last, I knew. I’m 6.5 weeks postpartum, with #3. And I still know I’m done.

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