Partner/husband with bipolar

Does anyone else have a partner/husband with bipolar? He's in a dip at the minute, and I'm finding it so hard this time. No-one in my life really gets it, and they just think that he's lazy and that he should be able to just do more, or that when things are bad I should just leave. It's incredibly isolating at times, but maybe I'm the only who thinks it is. Does anyone else feel the same? How do you get through the low points when you're already feeling rubbish yourself?

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( sorry for the book in advance ) So as someone that is bipolar as well there’s a little bit more to it. Do you know if he’s bipolar 1 or 2? ( extreme and not as extreme ) this will play a part in how you can go about things. It’s really going to be on himself and his mental. What I mean by that is yes we can have some pretty bad depressive episodes but it’s still on us to see that, take action and try and pull our self out. Some throw a pitty party and just feel more comfortable sitting in that slump but others will try and force themselves out of it. Going for a hike, going out to dance, really just breaking the stillness. It may not automatically bring you out of the slump but it does help and knowing ur trying to do something leaves you feeling better than doing nothing. Hearing the judgment of loved ones or people around you can make it more difficult but having a partner thats understanding and encourages those, hey lets do something as a family, moments can really help.

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