Good evening

Feeling very low at the moment my partner just told me that he feels embarrassed of me due to my weight after having my son c section in 2022 and that I need to do something about my weight.
As he doesn’t like to be seen with me due to my weight
This has impacted me very much emotionally as I don’t know how to cope with the feeling of him making me feel this way as I also suffer with depression and anxiety
I also have no one to talk too so I am really struggling at the moment
Any help is appreciated
Thank you

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When he married you he promised to love you no matter what

Seems he has terms.
A man who is embarrassed of you because of your weight..: ridiculous.
That doesnt sound like a man who loves you. Im ao sorry xxx

Sorry to be rude, but I would tell my husband to go and fuck him self... you have had a baby.. I've had two and my weight has gone up and down since we met 13 years ago and frankly so has his! x

For your partner to body shame you after carrying, growing and giving birth to your baby is unkind, cruel and says a lot about him and not you.

I don’t know if you are in the best mindset but you definitely need to evaluate being with him - a loving partner doesn’t speak this way to you especially the mother of his child.

You need to seek support for your anxiety and depression - have you reached out to your GP, accessed any kind of therapeutic support?

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