Rant, am I being over sensitive??

Am I being over sensitive? My little is 4 months old and he's the first grandbaby on my husband side so understandable they are very excited. However, I don't know whether I'm being just very picky and unfair.. when my in laws are holding the baby I get very over protective, rhey walk around with it to other rooms so I dont always have my eyes on him & feel a little separation anxiety. For example the other day my FIL returned from holiday so my baby was with him for a little bit and he feel asleep, I said to him I'll take the baby back and put him down and he said no no that's okay I will hold him and I was unable to take him back so didn't have him for the hour. I felt a bit lost and annoyed.

When my parents have him and he falls asleep they put him down and I can see him. Or when he cries they hand him back to me but my in lawss don't do that.

To me it's my baby and I would want him
Back whenever I want to. I know they don't have much time with him as he goes down to sleep early and they work so they are excited but part of me feels a little resentful. For example my family showers him with gifts all the time (i know it's not about the gifts etc) but they don't get him anything. My sil didn't even wish me for my first mothers days but then my husband will expect me to get her things for her bday etc (I am a gifter & love putting things together for people) but I'm a little annoyed that she didn't bother to even wish me for Mother's Day or get me even a card for my bday. I am tempted not to get anything for her bday but then I don't wan her or hubby to feel any way as I go out for my siblings (as they always go out there way for me)!& have been getting things from my little one to them. Am I just being over sensitive ?

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It’s obviously your baby so ultimately it’s up to you who holds and for how long but I would embrace it, use the time to grab a shower, or drink a cup of tea. I don’t have any in laws and my parents are three hours away so we don’t have family network locally which is maybe why I see it differently. In terms of gifts etc some people are just a bit crap. I still always get things for people but you will know the dynamics as to how it would go down if you didn’t.

I would say this, you are absolutely allowed to have your boundaries and to speak up. But, at the same time it is great that they want to be involved gifts or not. Alot of people don't have the extra help, or family that does want to be involved. Honestly myself I have had issues with my dad over the last 16 years (he cheated on my mom and I absolutely hate his new wife/person he cheated with) but, have still made it a priority for him to see my baby. Because my baby is the only one I will have and he is the only dad I have. And my family is the only family my baby has due to the fact that my bd is completely out of the picture. What you do is completely up to you but, as far as your anxiety goes I would say you may want to talk to a doctor about it. I have depression, anxiety and ptsd and found that medication does help.

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