Moving to Scotland

Hi everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice and insight.

My partner and I are planning a big move to Edinburgh, as he’s hoping to open a restaurant there. I genuinely love Scotland the atmosphere, the scenery, and the people always seem so warm and friendly whenever I visit.

However, I do have some concerns. I’m Black British, and I have a daughter who will be starting secondary school around the time we move. Naturally, as a mum, I want to make sure she feels safe, supported, and accepted in her new environment.

I’d really like to hear honest experiences what is it like for Black families living in Edinburgh, especially when it comes to schools? Have you or your children experienced any racism, and how is it generally handled?

Also, my daughter is very passionate about track and field, so I’d love recommendations for secondary schools with strong athletics programs or good sports facilities. Any tips on clubs, teams, or supportive communities for young athletes would be amazing too.

Overall, I’m excited about the move, but I just want to make the best decision for my daughter and ensure she has a positive experience.

Thank you so much in advance 💛

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Edinburgh will be lucky to have your family and I look forward to trying a new restaurant 😀

I’ve lived in Edinburgh all my life and to be honest not heard anything about racism, obviously you will get people who are racist as you would anywhere but never heard of it being a big problem here, where I stay there are multiple families of different cultures and backgrounds, I can’t speak for the whole of Edinburgh but definitely where I have stayed it’s never been an issue 😊

As for the school side I’m not 100% sure I would maybe google but also depends where about you’d be moving to for what’s near 🥰

I can’t bring much experience in the school area unfortunately, but for what it’s worth, the two Early Years establishments i worked at here in Edinburgh were not racist. In fact, one of them was actively ANTI racist; we held regular staff meetings introducing new anti racist books and sharing with each other any concerns we may have had and putting plans in place for improvement where or if needed. I would hope that this continues onto Edinburgh’s schools. I also live in a neighbourhood here with a mix of ethnicities, many of which are black young families with babies and children of school age. There is a wee mini bus that picks up and drops off some children from the block to and from school, and i can always hear the driver having wholesome banter with everyone. All i can say, i’ve seen some things going off in the streets, but racism has not been one of them!

I hope you all settle in well and your girl finds a good athletics program 🤗

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