Marriage falling apart after kids? 😢

The last 3 and a half years I have spent either pregnant or breastfeeding and co sleeping with my kids breastfeeding throughout the night. My husbands taken over and he takes the kids to sleep every night now and instead of me breastfeeding my youngest all night I now sleep in a separate room alone. My husband co sleeps with them and she sleeps so much better with him. With me she’d constantly be waking up for milk. I get to sleep better but the whole sleeping in different bedrooms to my husbands been so weird it’s been over a month now of me sleeping alone and something just doesn’t feel right. Feels like so much distance between us.

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Husband wants to act like a lil bitch

I need some advice or perspective on this.

My husband works a lot okay . But other than working barely contributes mentally or physically or supportive towards the house or me , for context I haven’t had a single break since falling pregnant in 2021 . The only break I get is when my 4 year old is at school but now I’m dealing with a 1year old aswell .

Please help me understand why does this man think it’s okay to go cozy up in bed if he’s not well? I mean you’re sick? So am I ? But that doesn’t excuse me from parenting or doing whatever I have to do to get everything done for the day . Yesterday he was laying in bed scrolling sleeping etc , I lost it because I had to take my 1year old to the GP at 2:30 and he was sleeping? He heard the baby crying but instead of coming down at once this man calls my phone repeatedly 4calls later that’s when he comes down to ask if I need any help I was like wtf so you’re that lazy to even offer help? So when I came back from the GP I didn’t talk or acknowledge him so half hour later he asks me what’s wrong and I told him nothing I’m fine because I know everytime I’ve voiced out how I’m feeling he’s only made me feel worse . I told him give me sometime I’ll be fine but he kept insisting- so I told him I said it’s not fair that you get to go rest while you’re sick but I’m just supposed to continue like I’m not human? I even mentioned I’ve never had a days of rest or a break in 6 years even when I birthed both my children I was back in the kitchen that very day so am I not allowed to be hurt that you get to sleep in and I don’t?he just got angry and walked out .

My point is I tried explaining an telling him it’s not about him resting that he’s sick but it’s about the fact that if I can think that you are human and you need rest why am I not getting the same? Am I asking for too much? Even today he’s been sick and stuck in bed from morning? I’m pregnant with the 3rd which I’m not planning to keep as I know he’s a useless husband who thinks providing money is everything. He wants to be respected but will not respect me , he wants to lead but will mimic everything I do? You want to act like a bitch but expect me to see you as a man? Make it make sense cause oh how I wish I could get away with murder rather than putting up with a useless cunt like this

Is it ok to keep helping in the house?

So ever since i met my husband he has being very financially open with me, i noticed how he used to help his mom as well. Long story short we got married and thats where i got more involved in his finances, well he is a home owner so i moved with him;but then i found out how much money he gives her, im talking about rent, insurance, groceries, clothes and so on. So for a while i helped him but i don’t want to do it anymore because i feel like i help in the house and that money directly or indirectly it goes to his mom; what should i do?

Weaning question

We’ve just started weaning our 6 month old and she’s doing amazing so far. However, whenever we’ve given her soft finger food ie courgette, rather than chewing down on it, she tries to suck it all in her mouth with force. Has anyone else experienced this? I’m trying to let her have freedom but terrified she’s going to slurp something in whole!

These fucking kids 😭😂 anyone else have a kid that sees anyone else enjoying a meal and needs to open mouth cough on it?

Every.single.time.

I don’t feel like my husband challenges me, I can almost never have a stimulating conversation with him, we married young 10 years ago when we were both naive but deeply in love

I feel like since then I’ve grown so much and he’s nearly stayed the same, so I guess I’m the problem since I’m the one who changed our dynamic but Ive slowly become more and more attracted to intelligence and my husband is kind and hard working but he is satisfied being mentally stagnant and it’s making me freak out, there has to be more. With the state of our country and the world, I like discussing politics, ideologies, cultural and social norms and things like that. I genuinely love learning and being challenged. He likes playing video games. He’s also objectively attractive by beauty standards, muscular build, full head of hair and beard. I recognize he’s attractive but I am not attracted to him anymore because I don’t find him interesting or smart. I know I sound like an extreme asshole but that’s the truth, is there any hope? Does anyone else feel similar?

Does this happen to all women?

I feel like I attract weirdos. I’m happily married. And every job I’ve worked at I have had horrible interactions with men. I worked at a gas station for a while and while I was there, I had a stalker, he literally had to be chased off by one of the other employees. And when I told my boss that a different man was asking questions about what vehicle I drove and waiting out in the parking lot for five hours to see when I would leave from my shift to follow me home, my boss( a man) told me to be meaner and did nothing.

when I was a CNA a guy grabbed my ass then same day I went to Walmart and as I’m in the dark parking lot two 6 foot four guys are at the back of their trunk asking me to come smell the perfumes they had.

Recently, my husband brought friends over and one of them hit on me in front of my husband, another one told his friend he would”bang me” if he had a chance. (Both of these guys are no longer welcome in our house)

and this is literally not even the worst experiences I’ve had as a woman!

IM JUST SO DONE! I’ve developed being shy because I hate it. Does anyone else feel like this? Why can’t women just be human?