Do you validate your toddlers feelings all the time?

The vast majority of the time sure however I’m not going to validate my toddlers “big feelings” when she’s throwing a fit because she wants cookies for breakfast lmao we don’t feed into tantrums in our house, they get ignored when they aren’t stimming from being overtired or sick.

What does it mean to you to validate their feelings? I think we encourage toddlers to name their feelings and accept them, but that doesn't mean we don't correct or redirect appropriately

Often no reasoning with a toddler
I ignore my 4yr olds tantrums a lot as they're total nonsense like when I've told her no and given a reason and she's still going
I don't feed into a tantrum and give them all my attention to do any gentle parent sweet talk to get them to stop. I either remove them from the place (if its public as its so embarrassing and noone wants a screaming child ruining stuff) or let them crack on with it

If you mean ignoring their feelings or dismissing them, I disagree with that. It isn't teaching them how to properly manage them and it is literally our jobs to do so.

I feel like what you actually mean is that their reaction should match the situation? They’re allowed to feel whatever feelings they want to. As are adults. We just can’t behave or react however we want to as a result of how we’re feeling.

I mean, imagine being annoyed about something and a family member told you your emotions didn’t match the situation. You’d probably be pretty upset about that, and rightfully so.

These feelings ARE real to them. They are really upset if they wanted a blue cup and not a red cup.

I’m not sure if “validating” is the right word. I put words to their feelings and provide support and co-regulation

Emotions cant be helped, reactions can. I will always validate how my kids feel, but that doesnt mean they can just do whatever they want because theyre mad (or whatever emotion). Feel what you feel, but you still need to respect those around you.

Using validate because thats literally what I read in a ton of posts