Great grandma kissed my babies face

My girl is 5 weeks, we spent over 2 weeks in the NICU and I am very germ conscious because of everything, she had sepsis and needed resuscitation at birth so I’m very overprotective. We took my girl to see her great grandma and she kissed her on the face, like on the lips, I am now absolutely freaking out that my daughter will now get seriously ill, we’ve seen several members of the family and this hasn’t happened yet, but now she’s been kissed and I haven’t even kissed her face because of the germs. Its my partners grandma so I didn’t feel like I could say anything at the time, which I now regret but it was all so fast and made me so uncomfortable. I am like very stressed now, any advise on how to stop it happening again and anything that can be said that will stop me having a panic attack over the next few days worrying she will get sick?!

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If she held her when this happened just don’t let her hold her again or if she asks to hold her just tell her don’t kiss her face. Congrats on your baba ❤️

Had my baby kissed too 😡😡😡

Next time before anyone holds her make an announcement…. Due to baby health situation we are asking no kisses or touches to her face. They also make signs u can attach to the carseat. My fil did this and 😡

I appreciate your fears around this, but my girl was getting slobbered on by her nursery-attending big brother the day she came home from hospital. The likelihood of her actually getting sick is slim.

I said to everyone “no colds, no coughs, no kisses, and wash hands before holding” shes your baby, set boundaries and dont care what others think, you are mum and you have a right to say what makes you feel comfortable/ uncomfortable! I would also be annoyed but honestly she’ll be fine!

This happened to me too, my FIL’s partner is obsessed with babies and she kept kissing our son all the time on the face and I was so triggered!! We have mentioned it to FIL and he said they had no idea that was even a thing to not kiss the baby’s face? Thought it was well known.

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