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Please please please tell me I'm not the a-hole here or I'm not overreacting because I would have to take accountability and responsibility for my words and apologize. So a little backstory yesterday I did the overnight for our 4-month son. He's going through sleep regression. He was up every hour on the hour and I got maybe 2 hours of sleep. He got to sleep the whole night through. He didn't work yesterday and said he wasn't feeling good. Which okay. But I managed to get all the laundry folded and put away and go grocery shopping and make dinner. That's 2 hours of sleep I had to adult on. Now today he did the overnights last night and my son slept longer. We have my two daughters from her previous marriage. I am not only doing laundry. I'm doing dishes. I'm making lunch for them and I'm also trying to take care of my 4-month-old. He comes in and says he's tired now. I told him to do the laundry because I can't always get to the laundry room because I live in an apartment and the laundry room is on the other side of the building. He left a basket of clothes that were still damp and he came in and said I'm tired and I don't feel good. He's highly allergic to cats and we have three and on top of that he smokes and he has horrible allergies so his sinuses are probably pissed off. Am I wrong for being angry? I don't get to have a day off even when I'm tired. He does right now. He's sleeping because my son is sleeping. WTF šŸ˜’šŸ˜’šŸ˜’

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Nah. You're not the a-hole. He needs to grow up and be a good husband and father.

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I’d be the exact same as you. As mothers we manage to get stuff done when not feeling 100% and look after a little human. And they seem to think the parenting and adult jobs just stops because they’re not well šŸ¤¦šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø xx

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You’re not wrong!

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As someone going through the sleepless night and without any help no your totally right and have the right to feel that way

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I get the feeling you get gaslit a lot here…

You are NOT in the wrong for wanting him to parent his child. You should share responsibility. This is not the Amish farm you live on.

Laundry is a reasonable chore and tbh that’s easy work. He is being lazy.

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