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I’m not sure if any of you SAHMs feel the same way, but I personally miss working. I don’t want anyone else to look after my daughter, I’d rather it be me or my husband. But that’s the only reason I don’t work. At home I just feel like I’m never doing enough and my life is going nowhere. Slowly working on being better at keeping up with all the chores and spending more quality time with my daughter because she needs that. But everything feels like an endless cycle. There’s always dishes to be washed, flooring to be swept or mopped, toys to be picked up. And I’m near all of it 24/7 because we only have one car and no disposable income. It’s rather suffocating. I miss people. Real life people. That aren’t my husband and daughter, that I can just talk to and see. This first year pp has me feeling like I’ve been drowning because I don’t have any family or friends here and I’ve tried so hard to meet people but they’ve all fizzled out. Is there something wrong with me? I can’t help but ask that question every day. I struggle with MDD though so I have depressive episodes like this often and maybe that’s the only reason I feel this way. Idk.

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We do all of that, but I feel the same way since quitting my remote job in January. However, I started making videos on social media and now have lots of packages coming in to make videos on. I feel like this is work because I set a few hours after my kids go to bed to do it. During the day, we go out to various free kid events and have at least one playdate a week. It's extra hard being cooped up inside!! The time dragsss so hard. But if we leave the house after breakfast, and come back then it's lunch, nap, and backyard play after that. A couple more hours inside snacking or dance/karaoke then Dad is home.

No this is so valid! I constantly battle with myself about how I’m not doing anything aside from housework and i don’t do well stagnant like i need to be working towards something and feel
Productive which i know im taking care of my baby and that is productive but she’s only 3m and sleeps a lot and just am not doing a whole lot yet. I feel like a lot of SAHM glamorize it and a lot of people feel this way it’s not just you! Message me!

Same boat sadly, I just take it one day at a time and honestly it’s horrible because I love working and I can’t find anything. I want to make an income to help out but I can’t demand people to give me one lol. It will get better though. Don’t give up mamas

Definitely all valid feelings. There’s nothing wrong with you. I actually went back to work on Saturday and Sunday (not every single weekend) when my husband’s home just because I was going stir crazy staying home. I love spending time with my baby but it is definitely a vicious cycle of naps, chores, etc. Gives my husband some one on one bonding time too

I feel the same sometimes about the never ending dishes and chores. I dont miss working but do miss socialization a litte bit. I try to leave the house with my son a few times a week. I run errands for my husbands business or go to the park with my son he loves to ride his balance bike. I think balance is important. But been able to take care of our son myself is priceless and wouldn’t change it for anything.

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Am I losing my fucking mind!

So I posted last night about going to a burlesque show with my partner that got awkward and uncomfortable when I realised I knew one of the performers. We went to school together.

I mentioned in the post that she danced in front of us, had her butt out, took hwr shirt off and did a sex dance with her ex husband.

So many people got confused, thinking my partner was the ex. I explained that I said "her ex husband", not "my partner". Some people never responded, 1 said she was telling me why she was confused and one told me I was coming at her sideways and was not a nice person because in addition to saying the above, I mentioned I had just told her my partner and the performwr had no connection, to which she had responded by asking if they had been married.

Another basically quoted "her ex husband", said I literally said those words and that was somehow confusing.

Others started saying I shouldn't go to a burlesque show or what did I think was going to happen, when I felt I was clear in the very beginning of my post that it got awkward when I recognised the old school friend.

I had mentioned being upset about the night in general and then people were asking about me mad or annoyed. I was like, I literally never said I was, I was specific that I was upset. Different emotions.

They also assumed I was upset because I wanted sex but I never said that, I said what I was actually upset about.

Someone somehow infered I was mad at my partner and shouldn't have included anything about the burlesque show because it was irrelevent. Except it wasn't.

I feel like I am losing my fucking mind because wtf.

Thank fully some people did actually understand what I was saying.

I have asked specifically what was confusing but aside from "you came at me side ways and are not a nice person" and "I am telling you why I was confused", I haven't exactly gotten an amswer to why "..........with her ex husband" was so confusing.

Like, I don't understand and feel crazy.

He's put something in my mind now, would you think he is cheating if you were in my place?

So last night I was in bed, asked my partner to cuddle me. He didn't, about half hour later he wakes me up by moving around and said "shall I put a condom on" so I said that would be nice but you always say no to wearing one. He then replied "yeah not with you" so I replied "eh? Pardon what do you mean not with me" he then said "I don't need to wear one with you, I will have all your babies (his decision to not have more 🫠)" so I said "well then you don't wear them full stop do ya" trying to still stay sleepy at this point as it's 5am. He said "I don't have to be as careful" then went back to sleep.

How would you take this.. As a confession to cheating or just he was talking in his sleep? Because I feel like I am going crazy. I have looked through his phone and found nothing, he works over 30 mins drive away from home and we have been together 15 years

Need help guys 🥺

I just want to know how to deal with getting cheated on, and not respected. I’ve been very hesitant with getting pregnant bc I know I haven’t found the right guy but god did his deed and I am. It’s with a man that I love but clearly doesn’t love me the disrespect is there, he goes out all night Doesn’t even come home, we don’t do anything together because I’m pregnant, it’s just a lot. How do I finally let go? I told him I don’t want him back in my house so we’ll see how far that goes. I just want love, and support and I can’t even get that from the man that impregnated me.

Do belly band support really work?

Is it another gimmick? Does it work long term? I'm struggling with bad back ache and I'm at my wits ends

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What vitamins are you giving your little ones?
I bought the Wellbaby liquid multivitamin because they were unflavoured as I was worried my girl wouldn't drink plain water if I bought an orange flavoured liquid one🫣😅 but the Wellbaby is absolutely vile🫠
I have to dilute is so much that she's not even getting through the whole 5ml in a day.
Does anyone have any recommendations please for less vile multivitamins? Or any that are just a few drops a day?
Thank you 🫶🏼

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Am I losing my fucking mind!

He's put something in my mind now, would you think he is cheating if you were in my place?

Need help guys 🥺

Do belly band support really work?

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