Me and my son looking for some new friends

Today is my son second birthday and I hate seeing him with no friends or family near us

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Losing a "best friend"

Honestly I just really need to vent and feeling absolutely gutted so would appreciate no negative comments please.

Long one but will try to keep short🥹...

So I have this friend who I consider(considered) one of my two best friends, likewise she always referred to me as her "bestie". Weve been friends for around 3yrs. Got close quick, you know the rest.

Adult life adults as it does and we were able to meet up I'd say every 4 months, but would continuously text and respond either daily or up to 5 days in between.

Great friend, very supportive, mature, funny, thoughtful -- for the most part.

One thing I did notice though is how she doesn't really have any other friends, the odd ones here and there, and then the work girls (all pretty common and very normal of course). She had one other best friend who she wouldnt exactly talk positively about, but I wouldn't say negative. Until they went on a holiday last year and never spoke again, and suddenly she started speaking badly about her and of course as a close friend I just believed what she was saying, why wouldn't I? But something in me didn't sit right, how could you go on holiday together and then just never speak again and unfollow etc... something mustve happened and it doesnt make sense that you just "cba with her" anymore. Bare in mind they were friends for I think near on 10yrs.

I got pregnant early last year and she was amazing, so supportive and so happy for me. I dont have any sisters just one brother who, due to a high level of autism, would never have children, likewise my partners brother would never (I think... manifesting it🥲). So I pick my friends wisely and consider them family, meaning they will be referred to as my childrens aunties.

Like I said previously she really was a great friend, but she would always be so vague about herself, I felt like I would always be talking about myself and no matter how much I try and ask about her its like I have to ask a million questions to know anything ever. How is that a best friend?? Nevertheless, I ignored it as some people just are very private and thats that.

Late last year she became pregnant herself and I was (and she) absolutely over the moon, it was the best possible news. Fast forward just a couple months later and unfortunately the baby didnt make it. Awful, so so sad, was gutted and she was having a hard time, so as a friend does I checked up on her daily etc. you know the rest. Eventually she came around and was looking to the future. During this time her whole attitude changed and rarely asked about my little one and I just got a vibe that I couldnt talk about him, even when I did her replies just didnt match the previous energy. Fast forward a few more months and shes pregnant again. Amazing, so so happy, cried with happiness for her and for my babies future "cousin".

Now this is where she really really changed. I could account for the previous attitude change as obviously goes without saying, she suffered a loss of a child. But even with being pregnant she just had a whole personality change and became very snappy with anything I say and as previously mentioned, still never making the effort to know anything about my child or be there for me (I've had a little PPD, nothing too serious).

Anything I say to her that could be even remotely negative, like for example as you mummas know some days can be awful, other days are perfect. But if I ever mentioned anything about having a hard day or baby upset with teething, her responses would be so blunt and like she just doesnt want to hear it. Just to make clear I am a VERY positive person, I'm not some complainer that moans about everything, just honest.

I have asked her 4-5 times now when she is available to meet up and every single time she says she doesnt know but will let me know... she never does.

So it got to a point where, I believed as I was being told, that she was working 24/7 and never had time to see anyone but family on weekends sometimes and god knows what else, like I said before, you have to really pry to get anything out of her. So I sent her a long, positive but real message telling her to come out and stop burning herself out at work, its so important to see friends and that you honestly do not realise the freedom you have before children and that when baby is here you shouldnt worry about anyone else but your little family so lets meet up whilst we can even if its the odd hour pop in and I can bring her some cravings etc etc. you get the point.

WORLD WAR THREE. She was raging with me and took everything I said completely an utterly out of context. Didnt want to talk to me for days until I reached out to her saying please lets stop this. Didnt want to meet me to talk in person as she just needs positivity, even though I havent said anything remotely negative and cleared up any points and quotes she made of my messages.

Since all of this (past month and a bit) I have realised that on her 3 recent insta posts I get the bluntest responses, and yesterday her second closest friend who she works with has commented the words "bestie", as she has back to her. So what I'm taking from this is that shes now designated this other girl as a best mate instead of me🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ as if were children.

I ask her when shes available to meet up as we need to get a date in. And once again she says shes not free and very very busy and once again drops in the positive comment about keeping everything positive, implying that seeing someone that you call your best friend isnt postive???? Oh and just to add when asking about her home situation she decides to say oh yes weve moved out.... like thats a HUGE life change and you didnt think to tell me that and respond with "but I dont want to talk about that right now" huh??

Like I am extremely busy at the moment I dont get a moment to even see family but happy to plan a meet up with her and she wont even attempt to try and give me a date in the next couple months.

I fucking give up and I genuinely feel like I am greiving. It hurts when you put so much into a friendship and as you mums know its lovely and pretty important to have friends who knew you before you became a parent. I genuinely hand on heart can say I have done nothing wrong and am absolutely clueless and hurt as to why this has happened.

Thanks for reading if you got to the end🥹🥹 just needed to vent and hopefully someone can relate??

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Any girl moms in the bronx

I have a 5year old daughter she's and only daughter niece and grandchild. Any moms who are looking for friendships that last. Reaching milestones as friends and creating a safe village for our girls. Coffee dates play dates picnics and holidays. Message if interested. It breaks my heart to see my best girl so alone all the time.

Bestie?

Hey! I want a bestie, someone who actually wants to talk daily, meet ups, play dates with the kids.
Someone who is consistent and actually wants to build a bond.💘

I am 32 years old

And I haven’t found a mommy friends at all and I been just busy taking care of my 4 kids and my son doesn’t get out of the house

Hey beautiful Moms!

Just saying hi here because I know I can't really get to make a genuine friendship here!

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