Marriage tension after 2nd baby?

How is everyone’s marriage/relationship after their second baby?? Mine is struggling and I have no idea what to do. I am miserable. Not cos of my marriage. Cos of the arguments, lack of sleep, and a second baby that cries 90% of the time.

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Honestly I think all marriages get hard after babies. It’s something no one is really prepared for and expectations are different on both ends so it’s never easy. But just stick to it for a year and eventually it will get easier, but also try to get some alone time with your husband if you can. Go on a date or go to church (they have daycare at church and men get to hear that they need to do better) or after your kids are asleep you can even read a book together and it’s better then watching tv because you can talk about the book and listen to each other.

Mine really struggled after the second. How old is your youngest?

At first it was really tough. Things have improved as our 2nd started sleeping through the night and my husband stated taking a more active role. I had to communicate a lot.

My eldest was 2 last month and my youngest is 7 months.
My marriage never struggled after my first, it became stronger even. This time round it’s been terrible. I have done every night feed/wake in 7 months, I have both every day so it’s 24hrs, we co sleep with our 2 year old, money is tough, I’m struggling mentally and it’s just been crappy.

I’m just stuck right now and why I suppose.

Second is nearly one and we are starting to get back to us a little bit. It’s been so much tougher the second time round!

We struggled in the hospital but we're doing fine now. Our marriage is really good right now. What helps is if your husband shares in the parenting responsibilities. Tag team diaper changes and go on walks as a family. He's become such a team player. Baby steps through, try to remain calm and don't let things turn into arguments.

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Pulsating neck?

Hello!
Has anyone had this with their little one?
Is it urgent or can it wait until monday for gp?
He is not in distress and breathes normally

Mum has asked to be at the birth and I said no…

I’m having my first baby in January and my mum asked me today whether I’d like her to be in the room alongside my husband for the birth of little boy. I could tell she asked because it’s something she really wants but I felt it was important to be honest and say that I really just want it to be my husband and I, but would absolutely love for her to be in the waiting room and the first to meet him after us.

I received a really hostile response back and she told me that her best friend witnessed her daughter’s birth and she feels like I don’t love her as much / im not listening to her feelings because I don’t want to go down that route. It then became quite a negative conversation around how she feels left behind and that I only go to her ‘when I need something’.

It’s made me feel really emotional and turbulent and it’s made me feel quite sad because I feel like she’s not listening to what I want and my boundaries but instead making me feel bad for what is ultimately my decision.

Has anyone had something similar happen? How did you navigate the conversation after?

Need advice

My 10 week old has always been very attracted to me from the start and early on when I put her down in the bouncer or the mat to play she woukd start to cry after 10-20 minutes. Recently its gotten alot worse to the point she starts to cry as soon as I lower her down or bring her away from me. The only time she's happy and not crying when im not holding her is nappy changes, she rarely does tummy time on the mat as she will just scream the place down (she does it on my chest instead).

Will she grow out of this or is there anything I can do to settle her when I put her down, ive tried toys, lights, singing, books but nothing works unless I pick her up. I feel bad that nothing gets done around the house or that I dont get 5 minutes to myself. Shes exclusively bf.

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Thinking of buying one of these for the little one. Are they worth it?
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Owlet Sock Red Alert

Hi mums! Has anyone experienced their Owlet sock giving a red alert for oxygen levels dropping below 80%?

This has happened twice now with my 7-month-old daughter, both times while she’s been sleeping on her tummy. Each time I’ve gone straight in to check on her and she’s been absolutely fine - breathing normally, responsive and sleeping peacefully.

What’s confusing me is that the Owlet seems to work perfectly fine the rest of the night, and on other nights, showing completely normal oxygen levels. Even when I check the history after the alerts, her oxygen levels look normal, although I understand the graph shows averages.

She’s also recently had a cold and still has a slightly congested, runny nose, so I’m wondering whether that could be contributing.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Did you get your baby’s oxygen or breathing checked by a doctor, and was anything actually found? Or did it turn out to be false alerts from the Owlet?

Screaming only at night

Has anyone else experienced this with their little one? 🥹💗

My little girl is nearly 7 weeks old and during the day she’s generally absolutely fine, but as soon as nighttime comes around, it’s like a switch flips!

She screams and cries, sometimes for hours, and it feels like nothing I do settles her. I’ve tried feeding, winding, changing, cuddling. I even started her on infacol and giving her gripe water.

The strange thing is that it’s only at night! During the day she’s a completely different baby.

Has anyone else gone through this? Is it just a phase, witching hour, colic or something else? When did it get better for you?

I’m absolutely exhausted and have no idea what else to try.