Heath visitor visit pre baby UK

I’ve just had a phone call from a health visitor who I had the displeasure of meeting a couple of years ago after my daughter was born, to set up a visit prior to my twins being born next month.

When I asked what it was for she told me it’s to talk about things like safe sleeping, breastfeeding tips etc but it’s not my first rodeo and I’d really like to not have her telling me my cat is going to smell milk from my baby and suffocate her… like she did last time.

Does anyone know if I can decline these bull**** visits, has anyone else been offered one even though they already have a child?

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Yes you can decline! I opted out of the service when my first born was 7 weeks old because the old bag was pissing me off 🤣
I’ll be telling them I’m not interested when the reach out after the twins are born aswell

Can you decline? I’ve got one coming Thursday and I feel like why you coming to my house to tell me things I need to?
What do they come for ?

Feel like there not a midwife, what does a person working for the government have to do with my future child and husband and house ?

You can decline/opt out
I haven’t been offered one this time around I would decline too if I’m offered one even if my HV was nice but don’t see the need for it with the seconde baby

I got a letter today sent on my mychart app and i was shocked because with my son when he was born i got a phone call telling me a time and date they'll be out and that was that were this time they want to meet me first but I have a 7 year old that needs school run and I haven't time to sit in and wait so there doing a phone call with me and this one sounds normal to me so im looking forward to meeting her in person one little one is born were if I got a vibe like my last one who was just ao bloody hyper and as a 21 year old mum all I can sum up what she was like its a nut job I dreaded her coming every time so getting some one who is actually normal im so glad as my face will tell it all before my mouth will lol

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