How often do you check your kid(s) phone?

My kid is not old enough to have a phone. But when he is, i will be checking it occasionally. I don't want to be obsessive about it though cause I have heard some stories about other kids getting burner phones because of their parents being too strict with their main phones. I also don't want him to feel scrutinized.

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Not there yet either! But I definitely don’t agree with the camp that says kids deserve privacy on their phones. Maybe back when I was 14 and the only thing I had on my phone was the snake game 😅 But unfortunately we live in scary times and with a frontal lobe that still isn’t developed, I feel like checking it every now and again is for their own good, even if they don’t realize it yet. Also seen too many interviews of parents with dead children who have said they wish they would have been stricter about it.

I waited til my kid was 15 for him to be allowed to have a phone. If it was up to me it would be 17 but that didn’t happen. I don’t check his phone though

Ours sons was set up originally so my oh had access on his phone discord messages. It definitely did need checking regularly. My son has asd and we had to tell him he could not send photos of his legs with blood on them to his friend (he’d been picking scabs). Another was a kid fron his school posted a YouTube video about him which we told the kids parents to remove and school. He’s 16 now and I don’t check.

We have heavy parental controls. It alerts us when we need to check. Which hasn’t been super often. But has done what it’s designed to do.

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