Have you ever shouted at your baby?

Feeling like a terrible mother because after trying to get my baby to nap for nearly 2 hours, I snapped and shouted at my baby. He's going through this awful nap fighting stage, and he will pull out his dummy and then scream like it's my fault. He's an absolute nightmare when he's overtired and I've and an awful couple of weeks already, so I'm just so frustrated. He's also got to the stage where he's hitting, scratching, and pulling my hair, so it's not great. I'm obviously very ashamed but I have little to no support and I'm so fucking tired.

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I’ve been there. Just remember we are human and we have feelings and emotions too. We can’t be perfect all the time. You just have to learn ways to regulate yourself, but have grace for yourself whilst you learn.
The most important thing I decided was that I apologise to my girls after something like that. I think it’s actually important for them to see that we aren’t perfect, and will make mistakes like that. Then they can learn from us, and understand / know when they may need to apologise for similar things.
You’re doing a great job. In a weird way, feeling ashamed shows how amazing a mum you are xx

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Happens to the best of us and the mom guilt after is awful, just give him a cuddle once youve taken some time my sons the same and i often have to step away and ask my husband to take over if hes free so doing it alone is a whole nother level

Just try to remember youre both learning and hes probably just in the stage now to test boundaries, its not easy and no matter the advice you will get given it bearly ever works because everyone else is not you or your baby, just try ti take the time when you get it, the house can remain "messy" if it means you get even half hour to yourself to do somthing you enjoy

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How old is your baby?
We all get there and feel guilty. Don’t punish yourself over it

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Every time I feel like I'm about to get angry or shout I repeat "She's just a baby, She's your baby, She isn't doing it on purpose, She doesn't know" and honestly it calms me down.

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Honestly do not feel bad about it at all, you’re not really shouting at your baby, your releasing your stress and when you are so sleep deprived you won’t realise what you say or do sometimes. Try rest when you can, i have no village either and it’s tough work x

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My husband has been getting upset so much he was in the process of leaving work so I was giving him the benefit of the doubt with all the stress and just let it be….
He’s retired now and home with us now but his anger is just on another level. We literally can’t even get in the car and go anywhere because everyone is always wrong to him and he’s the only one that is doing things right and thinks….
We got in an argument today and he left per usual he always leaves when he gets really upset and usually always comes back with something for me (soda candy etc) I feel like he knows once he cools down he took it too far but idk… could be wrong since he thinks he’s the only one to be right.
I’m just so over his attitude towards everything not to mention the helicopter parent he is my kids can’t even be kids because he thinks the worst is going to happen it’s just exhausting…

I know a lot of you are gunna just hop on the comments and say leave I’ve seen it suggested a lot before so I was hesitant to post this and just be told to leave… but it wasn’t always like this and when we’re good we are good I just don’t know what to do at this point.

When is enough or too much? This can’t be what a marriage looks like is it?

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My baby was born 3 days ago via emergency c section I was 38+5

Me and my partner are in the trenches, we don’t know what we’re doing, and we’re struggling so much

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