Feeling like a terrible mother because after trying to get my baby to nap for nearly 2 hours, I snapped and shouted at my baby. He's going through this awful nap fighting stage, and he will pull out his dummy and then scream like it's my fault. He's an absolute nightmare when he's overtired and I've and an awful couple of weeks already, so I'm just so frustrated. He's also got to the stage where he's hitting, scratching, and pulling my hair, so it's not great. I'm obviously very ashamed but I have little to no support and I'm so fucking tired.
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I’ve been there. Just remember we are human and we have feelings and emotions too. We can’t be perfect all the time. You just have to learn ways to regulate yourself, but have grace for yourself whilst you learn.
The most important thing I decided was that I apologise to my girls after something like that. I think it’s actually important for them to see that we aren’t perfect, and will make mistakes like that. Then they can learn from us, and understand / know when they may need to apologise for similar things.
You’re doing a great job. In a weird way, feeling ashamed shows how amazing a mum you are xx

Happens to the best of us and the mom guilt after is awful, just give him a cuddle once youve taken some time my sons the same and i often have to step away and ask my husband to take over if hes free so doing it alone is a whole nother level
Just try to remember youre both learning and hes probably just in the stage now to test boundaries, its not easy and no matter the advice you will get given it bearly ever works because everyone else is not you or your baby, just try ti take the time when you get it, the house can remain "messy" if it means you get even half hour to yourself to do somthing you enjoy

How old is your baby?
We all get there and feel guilty. Don’t punish yourself over it

Every time I feel like I'm about to get angry or shout I repeat "She's just a baby, She's your baby, She isn't doing it on purpose, She doesn't know" and honestly it calms me down.

Honestly do not feel bad about it at all, you’re not really shouting at your baby, your releasing your stress and when you are so sleep deprived you won’t realise what you say or do sometimes. Try rest when you can, i have no village either and it’s tough work x