Have you ever shouted at your baby?

I’ve been there. Just remember we are human and we have feelings and emotions too. We can’t be perfect all the time. You just have to learn ways to regulate yourself, but have grace for yourself whilst you learn.
The most important thing I decided was that I apologise to my girls after something like that. I think it’s actually important for them to see that we aren’t perfect, and will make mistakes like that. Then they can learn from us, and understand / know when they may need to apologise for similar things.
You’re doing a great job. In a weird way, feeling ashamed shows how amazing a mum you are xx

Happens to the best of us and the mom guilt after is awful, just give him a cuddle once youve taken some time my sons the same and i often have to step away and ask my husband to take over if hes free so doing it alone is a whole nother level

Just try to remember youre both learning and hes probably just in the stage now to test boundaries, its not easy and no matter the advice you will get given it bearly ever works because everyone else is not you or your baby, just try ti take the time when you get it, the house can remain "messy" if it means you get even half hour to yourself to do somthing you enjoy

How old is your baby?
We all get there and feel guilty. Don’t punish yourself over it

Every time I feel like I'm about to get angry or shout I repeat "She's just a baby, She's your baby, She isn't doing it on purpose, She doesn't know" and honestly it calms me down.

Honestly do not feel bad about it at all, you’re not really shouting at your baby, your releasing your stress and when you are so sleep deprived you won’t realise what you say or do sometimes. Try rest when you can, i have no village either and it’s tough work x

How old is he?

Sounds like he’s more of a toddler than a baby?

What are are we talking here?

If it takes 2h, you have started too early. If you need to force a baby to sleep, it’s not the time right time. Maybe some sensory stimulation is missing!

I think as mothers it’s really hard to be patient all the time and it’s one of the biggest challenges of motherhood in my opinion. The fact youre feeling remorse means youre a great mother regardless!

It’s nice to see women on this post supporting and giving good advice instead of bashing. This can be such an isolating feeling but just know you’re not alone. You’re only human, as long as you recognize it’s wrong and try to do better moving forward 🫶🏻

The amount of times I’ve told my husband “take her right now” so I can walk away for a second. Heck even if you have to just leave them alone in a safe spot so you can gather your emotions. I’ve 100% put her in the crib, swing, or bassinet so I can walk away AN BREATHE. maybe put some headphones on so I don’t hear the crying but still watch the monitor so I know she’s ok

I remember being at a baby group once and they were talking about 'rupture and repair', which really stuck with me (Google if you're not familiar). Whenever I snap at my 2yr old I always ensure that I 'repair' - I even did this when he was a baby and couldn't understand, it's a nice habit to get into. We will all snap at some point in our children's lives!

We've all been there. Nap fighting is frustrating.

Something that may help: I found it counterproductive to keep pushing naps when my daughter was fighting it. Spending 2 hours in her bedroom trying to get her to sleep just wasn't feasible and was destroying my mental health, so what I ended up doing was taking breaks. I would offer a nap, and if she started fighting too much, we'd get up and have a bit more play time. Maybe 20 minutes or so. Then I would go back to the nap with a bottle, and by then, she would typically conk right out. Yeah, she'd be pretty tired at that point but I think that when you are at the point of fighting and screaming, and they are getting more worked up, the cortisol is high and it's just not leading to sleep. So we would take some time and calm down, let the cortisol drop. Sometimes she just needed a 'reset' to get out of the sleep fighting mode. Just a thought that might help. 💜

Walk away and breathe! We've all been there, my LO always did better napping in the pram and the walk did me good!

Love the support you are getting ...I would just add, if it takes more than 30min for your baby to fall asleep, just leave it and try again later. I was the same trying to stick to a schedule but sometimes they would go for a nap a bit later or bit earlier, or maybe he is at a age he is ready to skip that one. Don't stress trying to keep a fix schedule. 2h for trying to put a baby to bed is too long and understandable why you got frustrated.
Let him play or put him in a carrier and go do what you need to do, I exercise with my little girl in the carrier one day she was fighting sleep, she then fall asleep quickly.
Good luck

I have screamed, shouted etc in utter exasperation. I've had to tell my husband to come and take the baby as needed to walk away and calm down. We are human, we are sleep deprived and overstimulated. We will lose it from time to time. If i lose it with either of mine I always apologise.

Yes I have yelled for the same reason. I even had to get up and just let my son cry because I needed to step away for a second to regroup.
It’s happens and you feeling bad about it means you actually care about your child and how you are being. Just take a step back and once they’re asleep just give yourself time to decompress…slow deep breaths and cry it out if need be

Baby is a toddler now but yeah, i shouted at her which made her cry recently. She kept throwing stuff and i asked her not to a million times, took items away and she was just making her way round throwing literally anything she could get. You know what, i dont actually feel too bad about it. Its not who i am, i rarely shout, im usually very calm but she pushed my buttons that day. I also shouted at my 11 year old today, he was being silly, i was sweeping the floor with a dustpan and he dropped a yogurt by accident (wouldnt have happened if he wasnt being a wally) and it burst all over me. He said sorry instantly but was i wrong for shouting? Not really, i had yogurt in my hair, face and clothes and was just trying to get some house work done. My mum shouted at me loads as a kid, i still think she was bloody amazing. Dont worry, baby wont remember it anyways just try not to make it a habit 🙂 its ok that we're not perfect all the time x

I did when he broke my favorite mug. He was about 8/9 months old

I felt like such a shit cuz it was just a mug

I took a deep breath. Walked away and came back to him and the mess. I was grateful he didn’t get hurt

I still get upset about it breaking but we’re all human.

Not when my daughter was a baby. But Jesus Christ as a toddler most definitely. I always apologise and explain I’m wrong and try to do better.

I've always thought anyone that says they haven't done this just isn't telling the truth lol it happens to the best! Sometimes you just need to make sure baby is in a safe place in their crib and walk away for a minute. They will be okay crying momentarily while you breathe and can come back calm. I agree with kota, sometimes it's better to just "give up" on the nap for a little and retry later or honestly if they are at an age where they may be close to dropping try skipping the nap and rearranging the days schedule a little to see if they just don't need it

I think almost everyone has been there and it's awful. Babies are so overwhelming and even more than that the lack of sleep/relaxation/a break is so damaging to your mental health. The best thing you can do is apologize to them (even if they're too little to understand), forgive yourself, and try to catch yourself before you reach that point of overwhelm in the future. I also highly recommend ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones, that way you can attend to their needs without feeling like you might lose your hearing in the process 😂

As a baby not with our oldest, as a baby yes with our 2nd lol. She's had recently sleep regression. So waking at 5am & drinking 5 HUGE 8oz bottles a day. 3 days in I called pediatrician for advice like.. maybe I up her to 10oz bottles 3x a day? Anyway I got judged for not really doing food.. food before 1 Is just for fun unless it helps sleep- I was so tired. Working mind you lol. So yes I yelled 😭 I was like "OH MY GOD GIRL, YOURE SO MAD! IM SO MAD! AGGHH! WAAHH" bc she was whining all day! 🫢🤣 anyone who says they haven't had that kind of moment.. is a liar. I only didn't have that with our oldest bc I would just take her outside! I had all the energy & stayed home with our oldest until 2021. If I didn't have to work I'm sure I'd have more patience but I would probably still have had that moment lol

Never shouted, however told him off. I think forcing a 2 hour nap is unrealistic. We are all challenged at times. Don’t feel bad. Just don’t repeat shouting in the future

I think anyone who hasnt been there with their kid will eventually. We all end up snapping at our kids, this shi is crazy hard and frustrating, especially if you are feeling overstimulated and tired ontop of everything else.

It happened, you recognized it, just apologize and try again. You are not a bad mom. You are a human mom, just like the rest of us ❤️

This poll has made me feel so much better. I’ve shouted before, especially when he wakes constantly in the night at 14 months still.
I’m exhausted from doing it all alone and I always feel guilty. But it’s good to know it isn’t just me who feels this way and it seems pretty normal among most other mums too. We’re all human