Boundaries!

Girls iv set a few boundaries for when my little lad arrives and a few family members are not happy at all with them and I can’t help feel nothing but guilt. It will be my 2nd child snd iv limited visits to 30-60min and this is one that one certain member of my family isn’t happy about and wearing perfume iv asked for no strong smelling perfume when they visit my new born and the same family member just isn’t happy at all with them. Am I being unreasonable am I being silly? I feel like im not being respected.

in our community

WIBTAH if I start doing the same thing back to him?

My FIL keeps constantly filming me every single say. He isnt even sneaky about it anymore. He knows I dont like and still does it anyways. He doesnt care. The only time he doesnt is when he sees me filming other stuff for youtube cause he knows that I have an increased chance of catching him with proof if I record him recording me. He also aks me awkward questions about my phone even though he is the one recording me.

Nursery Days Advice

So from Sept my LB will be starting nursery - we have decided he will be going in 3 days a week and then 2 days with me WFH. I can choose the days i work from home, we were going to go with the below
MON - nursery
TUES - home
WED - home
THURS - nursery
FRI - nursery
We are now wondering if he would do better doing consecutive days at nursery ie - mon, tues, wed or wed thurs fri?
Theres also option to do mon wed fri nursery, so alternative days.
Has anyone got any advice re this and how has your little ones took to consecutive/alternate days at nursery!

Thankyou☺️

My husband hit me and is acting like everything is fine ???

For context I have a 4 month old , just started my period yesterday so have been a bit of an emotional wreck.
I’d been having a down morning anyway and felt like one of those days where I didn’t feel like being a mum today (yes I feel guilty for saying that)
My husband was in bed and I was in the other room, little one was crying and wouldn’t settle so I was rocking him, husband comes in and took baby off me, I said he needs a nap he’s tired, to which my husband said “you always say he needs a nap” and I raised my voice slightly and said stop it!!! I pushed him away and he slapped me round the head saying YOU stop it!
I ignored him and let him take baby and left the house , long story short he went to work and came back acting as if everything was completely fine ?? It’s definitely not and I feel like I want to leave him but just scared to be a single mum and even though he upsets me most the time i see him as an extra person in the house so I can occasionally have a break
Because of the person he is I feel like it’s fine he didn’t mean it he was just angry, but he always said he would never hit me and he did for the first time today… not sure what to feel , don’t feel like i should let this slide.

I don't not feel guilty or bad

About giving what my son wants to eat for dinner when his after school snack was a yop (banana/strawberry), 2 pears. A bunch of grapes, and a plum.

Wtf am I crazy or just not getting it

I started marriage counseling with my partner of almost 12 years because I’m at my breaking point with him not being a partner.
3rd visit today and the first day where we moved past the hi my name is..and here’s my life story kind stuff and this lady said
My unwillingness to act as a mother figure and walk my husband how to do every little thing is actually my past trauma and I need to work on it.
And just because it was hard for me and I had to do it alone(husband was an alcoholic for the first 8 yrs of our relationship and I had to pretty much be a single mom) doesn’t mean that I should make him learn how to be an adult the same way
She insisted that the homework we do this week was me teaching him how to do the laundry step-by-step every single time it needed to be done to sit and hold his hand and walk him through it
Am I crazy for thinking this is absolutely ridiculous and enabling behavior

Am I wrong?

Kids dad moved over 1000 miles away a couple months ago. Has not seen the kids because of distance doesn't pay child support or help in anyway. We have one child who has some disabilities lots of appointments medications behaviors etc. both are in many sports all he calls for is to bitch. Like why the fuck not call and see if help is needed or how they are not why are they absent today but maybe why are they are they okay ughhh maybe I'm over exaggerating but just feels like he got to pick up and leave every responsibility why I stay here and raise kids we made together