Wtf am I crazy or just not getting it

I started marriage counseling with my partner of almost 12 years because I’m at my breaking point with him not being a partner.
3rd visit today and the first day where we moved past the hi my name is..and here’s my life story kind stuff and this lady said
My unwillingness to act as a mother figure and walk my husband how to do every little thing is actually my past trauma and I need to work on it.
And just because it was hard for me and I had to do it alone(husband was an alcoholic for the first 8 yrs of our relationship and I had to pretty much be a single mom) doesn’t mean that I should make him learn how to be an adult the same way
She insisted that the homework we do this week was me teaching him how to do the laundry step-by-step every single time it needed to be done to sit and hold his hand and walk him through it
Am I crazy for thinking this is absolutely ridiculous and enabling behavior

in our community

Can I vent a little 🫣

I thought I had the best parents in the world growing up. Everyone was soo jealous of my relationship with them. I had the “cool and young” parents. But as I’ve gotten older I’ve really struggled. My parents are divorced. The divorce was not kind or easy on any of us. I was given a lot of information by both of them. I was an adult but it was still a lot. My dad isn’t consistent. We talk every few weeks. Sometimes he visits monthly and sometimes every four to six months. It’s rarely planned in advance with only a short notice. When he’s here he’s busy with his job, which I understand. But he often has to take calls and step out. His girlfriend is very different from me and my family and we disagree on a lot. My mom struggles with her mental health. She feels rejected by me. She thinks I am uncaring. I can’t give her the attention & care I was capable of when I was younger and single. It feels like I’m floating in this world without the solid foundation of my parents. I miss when I was younger and thought I had it all. Now I feel so profoundly alone in my grief over losing (or never having) other versions of my parents. Can anyone relate? Any advice? Thanks for being here 🩷

Would this irritate you?

My MIL came round for dinner last night. I was finishing off cooking and had prepared a plate for my toddler, to eat at the same time as us.
My son was completely fine, playing in the living room. My MIL came into the kitchen, said that my son is hungry, took the food, put him in his high chair and started feeding him. It was done in a cold way rather than asking if we'd like her to help or to start feeding him.

How do I approach this?

I am at a loss at how to address this problem with my partner without it turning into an argument between the both of us. We are a blended family. I co-parent with my ex-partner and he does with his ex-partner. My eldest 3 from my past relationship live with him and I. And we had a child together. The eldest 3 visit their biological father during the school holidays, so we get a week when it is just my partner, the youngest child and myself. My partner is always calm and relaxed when it is just the 3 of us but when the eldest 3 return, he becomes stressed out, prone to yelling constantly in frustration, telling them all off for minor things, like being slightly too loud and it’s becoming a mental drain for me as I have to pick-up the pieces and calm the kids down due to dysregulation. I had started noticing patterns of him treating ‘our’ child differently compared to the eldest 3 children when the youngest was born. It is something my family have pointed out many times as well. He insists that he loves them all equally but I just don’t see that as he keeps saying he wants to try for another child because he wants a daughter. One of the 4 kids is a girl, so technically, he does have one.

Food and consumables at nursery

My nursery for LO (absolutely love would never change) they didn’t used to charge for bank holidays, then last month they’ve sent out an email saying starting April, they’re going to now charge bank holidays. Said their standard rates aren’t going up (which loads of nursery’s apparently do) and that this just helps with costs.

My question is, although they’re now charging the daily rate (mines covered by the funding) they’re still charging the daily food and consumables??? Which obviously she’s not eating there or using any equipment as they’re closed. I know they’re still charging as at the bottom of the bill it states how many days it’s timed by.

Is this normal?? I just think it’s abit cheeky. As although yes I’m not paying (god send) if I was paying this would annoy me??? Having to pay the daily rate then this on top?

Relationships

Hey all! I just found out my husband has been cheating on me for almost a year. Sexing other girls, asking for photos etc… I don’t know what to do or think. On top of this he has been lying to me about it , i caught him a few months ago but he convinced me it wasn’t what i thought.

I don’t know what to do, we have a 7 month old and none of my family live in this country..

i’m so heartbroken and confused

My daughter started her monthly…

I know it’s not like a big deal but I am emotional wreck. lol she started at school. We have had the conversation about it and how to handle it, but my baby girl called me crying ; she wanted me. 🥺🥺 And I just cried on the phone and told her mama is coming to get you. Lol
Anyway would a care basket be too much ?
Like with snacks, maxi pads, water, her favorite soda and a teddy bear( which she still collects) lol
Her dad thinks it’s too much and may make her feel uncomfortable.