Relationships

I stuck out 16 years in this type of relationship. He convinced me I was going mad and mental and making things up in my head, even with me finding messages etc etc
I wish all those years ago I’d have cut the tie, I just felt I needed him (it’s what narcissists are great at!).
My advice leave, he may stop for a bit but he’ll revert back. I always thought every year would be better.
I got a gorgeous daughter from it but a world of hurt.
If you have friends, lean on them. I didn’t as they were all his.
But it’s all based on my own experience. Maybe tackle some therapy together first. If he’s not willing then you may have an answer as to how committed to fixing the issues.

It’s very difficult and confusing but I would advice on leaving him if he is not willing to try fix the problems as like Kirsten said, he may stop for a bit but will revert back and try to be more secretive with it and you’ll always be left wondering and not trusting and will leave you feeling worse than just leaving x

Sorry for the bluntness, but once cheating has occurred in a relationship, it’s over. There’s no going back. Get out whichever way you can. Can you get help from local council etc if you cannot afford to rent or buy at this stage? Either way, you’ll be much happier without him and you will 100% find and get the support you need ❤️

Thank you to everyone who’s wrote in a reply so far! yeah we are currently in a rental , no break clause for 2 more years.

If you ever want to speak, shout, scream, vent, say something so ridiculous you don’t even think your friends will understand I’m here, (not on posh sub peanut but I’m here if you need it). X