Tears today.. feel over it 😢

Each time I pick my child up from nursery she’s always really silly which is fine, but then it’s like she turns into a demon. Tonight she has hit, kicked, bit me (once), thrown a cardboard box at me because I took her table away after I repeatedly told her to leave it (she was dragging it around the floor and it was catching on the blinds). I’m also pregnant, I’m tired and I’ve just come upstairs to have a little cry. I tried to help her regulate her emotions and speak calmly but she would not listen, wouldn’t calm, was getting more and more irate so my partner took over and I’ve just taken myself away. I’m so upset, I feel like she just hates me and needed to get it off my chest haha

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Do you think perhaps she might be a little overstimulated from a full on day at nursery? Sometimes I notice my daughter can be a bit wild on pick up but I try to do a calm activity even just a sit down snack and a quite drive home helps, we always do bathtime on nursery days one because she’s grubby and too I find it’s another way of calming her now perhaps something like that or something similar may help

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She's probably exhausted from a full day at nursery. My son gets the same in the evenings after bursery because he's so tired. Everything is the end of the world! The same in the mornings if I have to wake him up for nursery and he's not woken up himself. Tiredness turns him into the devil!
Im pregnant too, so know how you feel. It's nothing against you, or what you're doing, it's their age and the lack of being able to express their emotions x

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Thanks girls. I do think it’s the nursery and because I’m pregnant my tolerance is far less I’m just so emosh 😂 I’ll try something different at the end of a big nursery day to see if it helps x

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Hey, exact same situation here 🙋🏻‍♀️ Mine acts silly and it's kinda cute/funny (e.g. swinging on the railings outside of nursery saying she's a gladiator haha). But it's moments away from turning psychotic. Next thing I know she'll be screaming and trying to bite me when I'm getting her into her car seat. Getting her into pj's, cleaning teeth etc. is like conducting an exorcism.
I know with mine it's because she doesn't nap at nursery. It's a mixed age setting and she gets too much FOMO. She's so overtired.
I tend to do the bear minimum and get her to bed ASAP. She has a late pick up which helps so much, as it's gone 6pm by the time we are home and it's straight to bed.
I am also 12wks pregnant, and I do feel your pain with being more emotional. I don't find nursery days so bad though as I know it's so short lived until an evening of peace.
Hopefully you find something that works for you all

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My little girl doesn’t go to nursery but is the same 🤣

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Sorry, I can't reply directly to your comment.
I had to comment on your post as they sound soo similar!!
Like I said, no real recommendations, other than bedtime ASAP (but that's collection time dependent). Sometimes snacks help when changing her nappy, putting pj's on. Or using weird distractions like pretending to be a witch/monster/fairy changing her nappy (see 'how to talk so little kids will listen' book). But really she's just too tired, so it only helps deescalte by 10%.
Sometimes I find my days off with her harder where she's in a bit of a borderline grump all day, and I so struggle with patience and emotions since being pregnant, it's super hard sometimes x

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