Is this fair?

I’ve been with my partner for 7 years, and he’s a mechanic who manages his garage. He’s always handled my car—MOTs, servicing, repairs—just like he does for his mum, dad, and friends.

Recently, he told me he feels I don’t respect him or do enough for him (not sure why but anyway)🙄 because of that, he won’t work on my car anymore. My car just failed its MOT and needs two tyres and a shock, so it’s going to be expensive but that’s not really the issue.

What’s upsetting is that he’s refusing to help me at all and says I now have to go through the garage and pay full prices like any other customer. At the same time, he still goes out of his way to help family and friends, even when they’ve treated him poorly in the past.

It just feels hurtful, like he’s punishing me😓 is this fair? I don’t know where he’s getting that I don’t do anything for him, I constantly clean, cook, wash, work, school run/pick up, be with our child while he swans off after work🙄

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This is really weird behaviour from him 😅

Sounds like he’s soon to be an ex-partner because WTF is that bullshit??? 🤨

100% he’s punishing you and if you accept his behaviour, be prepared to get fucked over even worse later on.

Also from here on out don’t do a single thing for him. No cooking, washing his clothes etc and put up a rota so he does his half of the cleaning and also a schedule of when he has to look after his child. No swanning off at weekends when he feels like it.

It sounds like the end of your relationship honestly, because that is not how a loving partner acts.

The only way I'd make my partner pay full price for my skills is if he was disrespecting the work I do, otherwise I don't understand why he feels he has to revoke those free services?? It seems like maybe that's all he has to offer in a way 😅 (compared to your list of everything you do for him and your household!)

It's extremely unfair and petty and wouldn't make me think he was a good partner or even good dad if I knew him and heard that was how he treated you. Our lives revolve so much around cars, he has the means to ensure you & your child are traveling safe at no expense to you but he's choosing to charge you as a punishment.

What a shot in the foot! So he wants you to go elsewhere and pay for expensive work which ultimately HE is paying for? Just to prove some weird point? He’s petty AF

As a wife of a mechanic and previous service advisor myself, I didn’t even want to read past the 2nd paragraph. HES A CHILD.
Then I read.
That’s an insane way to show control and to be a use of punishment?! WHAT. No, he needs to have an adult conversation and communicate, not treat you like a child he’s teaching a lesson.

No.
Just.
No. Ew

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Is it fair to wait or am i being selfish?

Maybe this is just my mom guilt popping up, but i put together a play kitchen for my 1 year old. Its designed to make real mud pies and so i was going to put it in one of our garden beds that diddnt take so he can play in the dirt hes ver interested in right now.

Heres the issue. That thing made putting IKEA furniture look like a breeze. It literally took my an entire week and many tears. I even had to go get a new kind of screwdriver, and im fantastic at putting together stuff like this. Because it took so long, its now my one break day per week. The next day i tutor and wont be home till dinner. My husband is a sahd so really he could pull the kitchen out now and introduce him to the play kitchen right now, but i feel like im being selfish for wanting to wait the 2 days till i can introduce it myself.
My son has been watching me put it together and besides "helping" me put it together when he would hold my screwdriver he doesnt know what it is.

Am i being selfish or crazy?

Safest first foods?

I have really bad PTSD & Anxiety surrounding BLW. My 8mo is ready but I'm not. I don't want to hold her back.
I watched her have CPR twice while she waited for open heart surgery and the trauma of her 4 month fight from birth has me in a chokehold.

I know bigger foods are safer, easily squished between fingers ect

But what about things like tuna mayo? Mashed up flakes?

Salmon? (Am I not right that fish is a possible allergy caution food?)

I know broccoli and Carrot, sweet potatoe ect but is there anything else

What is the majority census of least likely choking food?

She's managed baby melty puffs, baby wafers, baby biscotti all fine...

(I only gave her these things because they say they melt in the mouth)

> I have health visitor coming out in 2 weeks to LITERALLY hold my hand and be present while I make my 8mo her first proper BLW meal of finger foods

> I am booking a baby and child first aid course with st johns ambulance for the 9th May

People with children just don’t get it😡

I have a gbf he’s nice we enjoy going out together but when I bring my toddler I feel as if he’s a burden, yes toddlers play up sometimes, get tired, ratty but he dosent have children and finds him exhausting and makes comments like “so glad I don’t have children” “couldn’t deal with that” etc. he never sees the true side of my little boy he hardly ever sees him but it’s really upset me should I take this so personal or jus brush it off.

Do you have a joint account for bills & shopping?

My husband and i bought our house in 2020 and without a discussion put the mortgage and bills in his name. I wasn't happy but it was done. I have to send him money every month after he tells me how much the bills came up to. Shopping we take turns to pay which isn't fair as one week might be more than others. Also, I do odd shops and buy the essentials for my newborn. This is causing a lot of arguments so my mum intervened and suggested having a joint account to make it fair.
He's now backtracking saying I have to make more effort with him, having date nights and not hide behind my children (ages 3 and 9 weeks). This is what's important to him. Is this fair?

Boundaries!

Girls iv set a few boundaries for when my little lad arrives and a few family members are not happy at all with them and I can’t help feel nothing but guilt. It will be my 2nd child snd iv limited visits to 30-60min and this is one that one certain member of my family isn’t happy about and wearing perfume iv asked for no strong smelling perfume when they visit my new born and the same family member just isn’t happy at all with them. Am I being unreasonable am I being silly? I feel like im not being respected.

Weaning

I’ve started weaning my baby she’s 6 months and 2 weeks and since I’ve tried her on food she’s been off her bottles and throwing most things up and most of her bottles and she was settled before. I’ve barely given her any food just spoonfuls to try.. is this normal or something I would need to see the GP for?