Working vs SAHM

Trying to decide if I want to go back to work or become a SAHM. We went through infertility for 3 years and had our baby girl in February.
I’m supposed to go back in a month but cant decide if I’d rather stay home. We can do it financially.
I do like my job but it also stresses me out at times. I would ask to go back 3 days a week if I did go back (already asked just in case, awaiting response) so I’d have 3 days on, 4 days off.
This may be our only child since I’m 32 so I don’t want to miss out on these early months/years. We also have inquired at multiple daycares and haven’t been able to get her a spot.
Advice?

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You can always go back to work later on. I’d soak up those precious moments and be a SAHM.

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If you can afford it id stay at home.
I work full time and balancing everything is rough!

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If you can afford it, stay at home!

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Nobody will care for your baby like you. If you have the opportunity to stay home I’d take it.

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Personally, for myself, I'd rather be a SAHM if you can afford it definitely do it. I went back to work part-time with my first child, but I worked from home, and my mum took care of her while I worked x4 4 hour days, so I really didn't miss out on much she's 4.5 years old and I have a 16 month old boy I'm now a SAHM and I couldn't bare the thought of sending him to nursery whilst someone else took care of him. My first didn't start nursery until she was 2.5 years old, and I plan to do the same with my second child, I love my kids wayyyyy more than earning that extra cash.

Don't miss out on any of it if you don't have too 💯

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STAY HOME!

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I work 3 days a week and find it a good balance. At the end of my maternity leave I missed properly using my brain and having adult conversations and going to the toilet by myself. 😂

Our kids love nursery and have become more confident and made friends there. So for us it’s the best of both worlds.

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I’ve gone back to full time after baby 1 and decided to stay home after baby 2.

Honestly, I prefer being a SAHM despite having the funnest and most fulfilling job in the world (to me at least).

I still use daycare twice a week for her to play with kids and socialise but I have so much fun with them at home. I’ll never get this time back, I’m replaceable at work.

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I work what most people would consider part time and I find it works well for me.
But my situation is unique. I work from home in the mornings before my husband goes in so we don't have to pay for daycare.

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In what you're describing, I personally think you should invest that time in your precious little one. If money isn't a problem there's no reason not to! :)

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Go back to work 3 days a week! You’ll have more financial independence and more of an adult life of your own.

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Are you American? Cos that’s only 3 months off right? Absolutely take at least a year off. Then go bk three days a week of it’s still financially possible

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If you can afford it, don’t mind switching jobs when you’re ready to go back, then do it. You’ll never get this time back, so soak up every minute.
I’m 41, had my LO in august and never went back to work. I will, next year when he’s old enough for pre-school more full time, but enjoying every day I can. Happy to change jobs too, I was burning out and this is a great way to spend a gap year if you ask me.

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I chose to go back to work for my mental health. I also get to bring my baby to work with me, which I’m SO thankful for. I just couldn’t do it being stuck at home all day with no adult interaction.

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I feel like the three days on is a good balance especially if u enjoy ur job also if u are able to secure a job to go back to you can try out sahm life for a little bit and see how u feel after?

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Part time was the best option for me

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